A papa I’m close to asked me to clean his room. His room is extremely dirty. He hasn’t even taken out the trash, and it’s covered in dust—an unbelievable mess. I guess it’s not really his home, but a room he uses for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) as well as for himself. His wife may clean their actual home, since it looked clean in the photos.
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Honestly, it’s beyond what an ordinary person could clean. It’s at the point where he should call a professional cleaning service.
Who does he think he is, asking me to do something like this? Is he some kind of papa (a male supporter)?
In my case, whenever I get close to someone, they inevitably start looking down on me.
I want to change that. Please give me some advice.
This is Nana Ayase ♡
If it’s really that bad, try suggesting that you call in a professional cleaning service once. If he refuses, ask your papa (a male supporter) to help sort through the trash with you. I’m sure there must be things worth keeping, right?
Once things start getting cleaned up, your papa should realize that an amateur won’t be enough. Then call in a professional.
After the place is clean, you could help out as a housekeeper about once a week for 10,000 yen a day.
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It’s Seattle.
If you’re hiring a company, someone needs to sort out what gets thrown away, so the man should be the one to arrange it.
You could clean it for her, but why not charge her? Maybe around ¥50,000.
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You really need to keep a clear boundary around your private life—it’s inconvenient for both sides otherwise…
And if you showed a woman a filthy apartment, wouldn’t she just end up disliking you?
I’ve never even been to the apartment of a woman I’m seeing whose place I rent for her. And when another woman I’m in a monthly arrangement with invited me over, saying, “Come over,” I turned her down with:
“Only my boyfriend is allowed inside my place.”
Maintaining a comfortable distance is important＾＾；
— A losing guy
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I’m Taro, a male member.
You can simply say, “It’s okay to throw everything away, right?” If she says yes, throw away everything you can see, and you’ll end up with a clean, lifestyle-free room. If she starts saying, “Not this,” or “Not that,” just listen for the moment with an “Mm-hmm, mm-hmm,” and say something like, “It’s complicated. That’s tough.” I think conversations where you share inconvenient facts are actually pretty important.
If it looks like digging any deeper could get you into trouble, just go along with it for now and quietly hire a professional cleaner behind the scenes. Duskin apparently charges ¥24,000 before tax for 24 square meters. That’s considerably cheaper than an allowance. When you think about it that way, isn’t being intimate in exchange for money pretty efficient?
What I’m saying is: this is a high-margin business, so wouldn’t it be smarter to reduce your profit margin rather than cut off a customer? Your pride and anything that doesn’t make money are irrelevant. And if that’s not the issue, then it’s just a lovers’ quarrel—and since even dogs won’t eat those, you might as well feed it to a cat, parakeet, or hamster.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office will answer too.
> “Who do you think you are, making me do something like this?”
Honestly, it sounds like the person asking is the one being condescending. If you don’t want to do it, you could simply say, “I’m not comfortable cleaning.”
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I’m Aya, a female member.
While smiling, say something like, “Oh, come on—you can’t make me clean~” and absolutely do not clean. If you can’t refuse outright, you’ll have to make your intentions clear through your actions.
Keep dodging it and never clean. If he still tries to force you to do it, get away.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
You may simply have an approachable personality. Changing that seems difficult.
For now, I think it would help if you could say something on the spot that isn’t an outright rejection, such as, “Honestly, this isn’t the kind of mess an amateur can clean up.”
As for, “Who do you think you are, making me do something like this?”—if you phrase it poorly, it could turn into an argument, so it’s probably better kept to yourself.
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