My papa and I have a 29-year age gap. Do we look like parent and child to other people because of the age difference? How do we come across? He’s older than my parents, so I’d actually be happy if people thought we were parent and child…
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Do you not look like parent and child if you don’t look alike?
I’m Ayase Nana ♡
It sounds like your parents had you when they were quite young, right? If they’re around 30–35 years old, I’d say that’s pretty normal.
You may look like parent and child, but if you act awkward around each other or your outfit looks obviously like a papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) or escort style, people may see you that way.
Be mindful of your clothing and behavior.
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I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer as well.
People who have experience with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) may assume it’s papa-katsu, but people who haven’t will probably see you as parent and child.
I don’t think whether you look alike really matters that much. Plenty of parents and children don’t look alike anyway.
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I’m Hikouki, a male member.
When a woman is bare-faced and dressed casually, people sometimes mistake us for father and daughter, depending on the restaurant we go to.
Before joining the club, I assumed only parents and couples went out together like that—I never imagined papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). So I don’t think people who aren’t familiar with papa-katsu pay much attention to it.
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I’m Shingo Lee, a column writer.
Well, it really depends on the person. Some people clearly assume there’s “something shady” going on.
Once, the police checked the age of an 18-year-old girl I was with in a love hotel district. Well, I’m in my late 30s, so I guess it couldn’t be helped...
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We’d probably look like we were doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) or like a parent and child.
So unless the woman strongly prefers otherwise, I walk separately from her in public.
Even when taking a taxi from a dinner date to the room, we ride separately.
- Meet and leave separately at the restaurant, using a private room
- Meet and leave separately at the room
And of course, we arrive and leave at different times.
I’d never make a woman feel nervous like that.
If I don’t put in a hell of a lot of effort in areas like this, a bad-breathed, seal-like guy such as myself will get dumped in no time. (汗)
A loser of a man
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When I was 30, I was seeing a 68-year-old man.
Whenever he took me out to eat or shop, he introduced me as his daughter.
For example, when we were buying jewelry, he’d say something like, “Could you find something that would suit my daughter?”
The funny thing was, whenever he insisted that I was his daughter, people would say things like, “You two really do look alike.”
We’d both look down and quietly giggle.
Marika
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Since we don’t really give off a parent-and-child vibe, I think people probably see us as a couple with some kind of arrangement, including papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
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I’m in Seattle.
They’ll probably assume you’re family or that he’s your boss. People really don’t pay as much attention to others as we tend to think.
Personally, I play it as a close parent-and-child relationship. She’ll say things like, “Papa, I want to eat this,” and so on. Even when my actual daughter and I are getting along, she usually just eats quietly with a grumpy look on her face.
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