Am I being treated casually because I’m always only invited at the last minute?
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My schedule is often already full by then, so even though I appreciate being invited, I hate having to say, “I can’t make it this time—maybe next time.”
I’ve told him that it would be easier for me to arrange my schedule if he contacted me in advance, but he still only reaches out at the last minute.
This is Nana Ayase♡
It’s really hard waiting when there’s no next date set.
When you’re contacted at the last minute, you can’t help but feel they came to you because things didn’t work out with someone else, right? I wish they’d let me know sooner.
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I’m Basil, a male member.
In my case, I make plans for the next date with the women I really like while we’re together.
I only invite someone at the last minute when a woman I had plans with suddenly cancels, or when I can’t move forward with a first-time Type C meeting and need to find a substitute. In that sense, they’re backups—but if they’re flexible and quick to respond, they can be like a valuable relief ace. Sometimes those arrangements end up lasting longer than expected.
Of course, some people have jobs that make it difficult to plan ahead. So if you want to keep things going, it’s probably best not to complain too much while you’re still being invited—make the most of it.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
It doesn’t necessarily mean they’re treating you casually. Some people have jobs that make it difficult to plan ahead, while others simply don’t like making plans in advance.
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I’m a loser of a bad papa, constantly seeing around five women on monthly arrangements and another five or so on pay-per-meeting arrangements.
I think you rank fairly low in his pecking order. That may hurt to hear, but I’m not going to sugarcoat it.
That said, women like you are the ones who tend to last the longest.
For men, women in high-ranking positions—such as those on monthly arrangements—are almost automatically destined to be dropped when a new woman comes along who offers better chemistry and terms.
But women like you face almost no risk of being dropped.
There’s nothing wrong with aiming for a high-ranking monthly arrangement, but the risk of being dropped also rises considerably. So I recommend looking for other papas to spread out the risk.
Except for my ace, I tell all the women I’m seeing that they’re free to have other papas.
P.S. Only two of them set up their next date on the day we met—the women ranked first and second.
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