Are there any sincere, gentlemanly male members who choose to date just one woman?

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. I think there are quite a few men like that. It makes conversations and interactions much more enjoyable when you don’t have to worry about mixing people up or misremembering things. You can naturally say things like, “What happened with that thing the other day?” or “Look at this—I found out this is how it was.” > Reading comments about “selling girls off one after another like human trafficking” or treating them like they’re in the sex industry can sometimes be painful. > There are devoted women too, so I’d like to know what devoted men really think. I feel the same way. I’m firmly in the camp that believes being devoted to one person is more enjoyable. It’s nice for a man to be chosen by one woman, and I think men are better off focusing on just one woman as well—it makes for a genuinely enjoyable, meaningful relationship. Also, as for why men seem to be divided into those who stay devoted to one woman and those who date many women: Neither side envies the other at all.

This is Saito, your columnist♪ As you said, if a man is satisfied with having just one mistress in the first place, I feel he could find one without registering here... On the other hand, I do know several men who make offers to various women before eventually settling on one... A dating club wants to introduce as many women as possible to a wonderful man. And the same goes the other way around.

I’m Osaka, a male member. I only have one, though. More precisely, I ended up with just one, lol. So I probably can’t really call myself a gentleman. Two women have asked me to date only them, but since I’m married, I replied, “Doesn’t that already make it a no-go?” And they came back with, “That’s fine,” as if there were some mysterious rule about it, lol. Anyway, there’s no single right way to date, so I’m not going to say you shouldn’t impose your own standards on someone else. If that’s what gets you excited or makes you happy, then I think it’s fine. When I first signed up here, I had certain requests and ideals in mind, but I figured I’d be happy if I happened to match with someone who fit them. I’ve never forced those expectations on anyone, though. I don’t want to be disliked, lol. The journey continues, and who knows what the future holds, lol. Maybe in a few months I’ll be aiming to build a harem, lol.

I’m date◎yume, a male member. I’m seeing just one woman. As I’ve written in my columns, that’s how I’ve done things ever since joining the dating club. The reason is that, when I first joined, I looked to this anonymous Q&A box, the columns (Darling), and the staff columns for ideas on how to go about it. One article in particular, by Saito-san da zo, titled “My Thinking Got Strange After Joining a Dating Club,” included a conversation between a suspicious interviewer and a country-bumpkin president from Tohoku. I’m getting on in years, and I’m also one of the club’s less affluent members. So, partly to avoid having my identity exposed and partly as a precaution against STIs, I chose to see only one woman. Once I actually started, things rarely progressed to an arrangement, partly because of my age. So I asked the staff at my club’s branch to introduce me to someone, which is how I met the woman I’m currently seeing. The introduction came very quickly! I asked, “Is there anyone who might be a good match for me?” and they contacted me almost immediately, saying, “How about this woman?” I was surprised too. I wondered if they had really searched that fast. She looked very young—exactly what you’d expect from a dating club. I saw her photo and thought she was reasonably attractive, so I said, “Sure, that sounds good.” That’s how it all began. At first, she was just a money-minded country girl（笑）. But she was willing to listen, so we talked things over many times while seeing each other. Each time, it felt like our relationship grew deeper. These days, things are going really well（笑）. She’s started saying things like, “Maybe I really was just a country bumpkin!” The other day, she said, “Papa-katsu isn’t so bad after all, since I get to learn all kinds of things from you,” and sometimes she says, “I’m customized for you, Date-san（笑）.” She’ll even astutely ask, “Aren’t you tired today?” (I really was tired.) It seems she began to change after we passed the two-year mark（笑）. We have a relationship we can’t tell other people about, but I’m thinking that, in whatever small ways I can, I’d like to support and encourage her. I’m sure there are other male members who prefer seeing just one woman, too. For female members, there are plenty of opportunities to meet people, so I think it’s best to proceed carefully and take the time to decide who’s right for you.

I’m Tetsu, a male member. I’m sure men like that do exist, but considering that they’re registered with a club like this, I feel they’re probably in the minority. That said, I think there are quite a few men who genuinely value the women they happen to meet, even without limiting themselves to just one partner. Both men and women naturally have possessive feelings. A lot of people probably want to have someone all to themselves, but don’t want to be treated as someone else’s exclusive partner.

From the club’s perspective, men who make lots of offers are obviously the better clients, so why not tell the branch staff what you’re looking for and ask them to recommend you to men who share that outlook? I can’t say whether it’ll work, though. Everyone here has different goals. Some people can’t continue unless they keep raising their allowance, while others may genuinely be able to make it work in a mutually beneficial, win-win way. As for me, I only have one papa (a male supporter)—an extremely generous one, in a sense. I just don’t make a point of saying so or going on and on about it. Akari

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here with an answer as well. Men who occasionally say they want a woman all to themselves seem to be saying that they only have one partner. So, if you take them at their word, I think they’re seeing only one woman. Basically, anyone can become a respondent as long as they don’t have any bad ratings.

I’m a losing male member. As far as I know, there are two female respondents who stick to just one papa. That said, there are overwhelmingly fewer male members than female members, so if there’s no turnover, female members won’t have any opportunities. But I guess that’s just an ugly excuse from a player like me. m(｡>__<｡)m P.S. Come to think of it, there aren’t any female respondents who stick to just one papa, are there?