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Oct 26, 2021 00:59
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There’s a papa (a male supporter) I’ve met seven or eight times in an adult relationship (intimate), but I suspect his hair might be a toupee. It’s remarkably thick and dark for someone I estimate to be around 60, and the overall balance just seems unnatural.
He’s very cheerful and has a clean, well-groomed look, so I don’t want to upset him by asking something strange. But I can’t stop thinking about it—I can’t concentrate on our conversations or intimacy.
Part of me even imagines pretending to climax during intimacy, grabbing his hair, and pulling it, which scares me. In the end, I honestly don’t care whether it’s a toupee or not; I just want to know the truth. I can’t bring myself to end things without knowing. If anyone knows a lot about toupees, I’d appreciate your advice.
7 answers
Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Basil, a male member.
If your interest outweighs the allowance, by all means, go ahead and find out. If a man doesn’t bring something up himself, it means he doesn’t want you to ask about it.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s office will answer too.
I believe the entertainer Tamori was once the subject of similar rumors. He would have other people pull his hair, saying, “Go ahead and pull it,” so I think there may be people who don’t notice even when their hair is pulled.
Of course, you can’t help wondering about something that bothers you, but I don’t think there’s really any way to resolve it.
> “I can’t even break up with him without knowing.”
Why not ask him when you break up?
Other
I’m Nana Ayase ♡
I wore a wig because of alopecia areata until around May this year.
Since I was bald around my bangs, I still wonder if people could see it when I was sitting on the train.
The edges always lift a little. Even though I tried to blend it in, it still stuck out slightly.
I was desperately trying to hide it, so please just leave it alone.
Whatever you do, don’t mention it—please pretend you didn’t notice.
A~Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月1程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
You shouldn’t touch on someone else’s insecurities.
You have your own insecurities too, to some extent, don’t you?
Some people can laugh it off, but others may genuinely get angry or feel hurt.
Other
I’m Taro, a male member.
Why does everyone get so worked up over suspicions that someone wears a toupee? In the drama *Trick*, Detective Yabe’s line, “No, this grows directly from my head,” was absolutely hilarious. I haven’t seen the movie *Toupee Detective*, starring Fuyuki Moto, but “Blow Your Sorrows Away with a Toupee,” the theme song, is one of my go-to karaoke songs. The lyrics are pretty brilliant too—“It’s not a loss, but it’s not a win either,” for example.
It’s funny to everyone watching from the outside, but the person involved is probably desperate. If you think about it rationally, you might say, “Why not just shave your head? Plenty of Westerners are bald, and these days women are always talking about hair removal.” But I think they’re so cornered, in a sense, that they can’t even think that way. You wouldn’t appreciate being laughed at for inverted nipples or a flat chest, or being given oddly “constructive” advice, would you? In fact, you probably wouldn’t want to see someone like that again. So I think it’s best to leave the person alone.
If you really want to take things further, ask him to introduce you to someone he knows. If that man is seeing another woman, suggesting a threesome might work too. Meeting someone through him could be great. You could drink for hours just talking about his toupee. About ten years ago, I once spent two hours drinking with a boss I wasn’t even that close to, using a mutual acquaintance’s toupee suspicion as our topic. We didn’t talk about anything else—not even for a second—but we had an incredibly good time for the entire two hours. I think enjoying it that way is better because no one gets hurt.
🏅 倶楽部女性のご主人様に潤いを!
Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中!
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです!
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
To deepen the relationship, try asking while making it clear that either answer is perfectly fine.
Clear things up and put your mind at ease.
Other
I’m Aya, a female member.
Since you said, “I don’t want to upset him by asking a weird question, but I can’t stop thinking about it, and I can’t focus on our conversation or being intimate,” I think the only way to stay focused without putting him in a bad mood is to think about something else.
In papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you won’t get a higher allowance unless you stand out from the other girls, so it’s definitely better to make sure a papa (a male supporter) who’s concerned about his hair has a pleasant time. Do your best to stay focused.