Everyone, when do you usually make plans for a second meeting?
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I just saw a question from someone who said they hadn’t messaged on LINE for about a month, and now I’m starting to worry.
At my first dinner with someone I met here, we talked about things like, “Next time, I’ll take you to this place I recommend,” “I’d like to do something like this,” and “I’m usually free on [day of the week], so I’m looking forward to it!”
But we still haven’t set a date for our next meeting.
The man was also the one who suggested exchanging LINE contacts, and he even showed me his friends list, saying, “It’s just you and my family.” Yet...
Does this mean he’s dropped me?
The last LINE exchange was after our first dinner. I messaged him, “Thank you for today. I’ll be looking forward to [day of the week],” and he replied, “Looking forward to it,” which is where the conversation ended. (That was about two weeks ago.)
He’s a really wonderful person, and I’d love to continue our relationship, but is that difficult now?
He gave me his business card, so I waited without worrying about anything—he seems like someone whose name and face would come up immediately in a search—but when I looked at our LINE chat more carefully, I realized it had already been about two weeks, and now I’m getting anxious...
Would it be a nuisance to him if I messaged him first? From the perspective of male members, would that be bothersome?
For the female members here, after how many weeks do you usually take as a guideline before messaging?
Thank you in advance for your answers.
I’m Nana Ayase ♡
If you want to meet, send me a message on LINE.
If you don’t reach out, you can’t move forward—one way or the other.
It won’t work if you suddenly suggest a date, so please send me all the days you’re available over the next 1–3 weeks.
Hopefully, you’ll get a response. Wishing you the best (｡-人-｡)
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Both men and women tend to be hesitant about reaching out.
If you wait for them to contact you, you might end up meeting thanks to a LINE message. And if they’ve decided you’re not a match, reaching out will let you see their reaction and move on quickly.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with contacting them.
As for making plans for a second meeting, if you know each other’s schedules and can set a date on the spot, do it before parting after the first meeting. If you need to work things around or neither of you seems to have any free days, say you’ll message them on LINE later and part ways.
Marika
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I’m a total pushover when it comes to B-type arrangements.
If she comes on strong during our first dinner date and says, “Is it okay if we decide when to meet next right now?” I usually cave and end up scheduling the next date—and once I make a promise, I always keep it.
A little late to say this now, but I wish I’d decided everything at the first meeting.
And if she comes on strong over LINE, I end up going on the date too＾＾； I’m just weak to pressure.
I wonder if there are really men who feel annoyed when a woman contacts them. Especially if it’s been two weeks already.
On the other hand, if you don’t reach out, things will probably just end. Be brave and contact him!
By the way, the reason I became B-type only is that I once met a woman who wasn’t my type, but she pressured me into an adult relationship after dinner, and I went along with it. It was a bit traumatic.
It’s not that I’m bad at saying no exactly—I just feel that rejecting a woman who took the courage to make the first move would be unacceptable as a man.
With B-type arrangements, an adult relationship on the first day is out of the question. So if she isn’t my type, I’ll exchange LINE contacts, then let things fade with a read receipt and eventually no read receipt.
Although, due to various circumstances, I can’t use LINE anymore, so I have no choice but to communicate by email.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
If things went that well, I think you should send it right away. The skilled hostesses at Ginza clubs would schedule a second date immediately after the first dinner accompaniment, right there in the club (almost forcing the issue, perhaps?). I’m impressed by how good they are.
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I’m a male member, “Paper Airplane.”
Go ahead and message him on LINE right away.
I don’t know whether he rarely checks LINE, hides or deletes other chats, has hidden or deleted your messages without noticing them, doesn’t constantly check his phone, or simply has so many messages that yours got buried.
But if you’re messaging once a week or every three or four days, I think it’s fine to keep reaching out until you get a response.
If you don’t message him, you’ll never know which of those possibilities it was.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here—I’ll answer too.
Since it’s been two weeks, I think it would be fine to reach out.
Something like, “Would you be able to meet this coming [day]?” should work, too.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Some women ask about scheduling the next date as we’re wrapping up our first date.
If they don’t, it’s usually the woman’s message that gets things started. In most cases, I receive a message within a week or two. Some women don’t reach out until several months—or even more than half a year—later.
Receiving a message isn’t a bother at all.
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