He used to do it at first, but he doesn’t anymore.....
I want him to because I really like this papa, but could it be because I smell bad...?
Other papas do go down on me (although I don’t like it because they’re not the papa I like), and they even compliment me by saying, “You really don’t have any smell at all,” even though I never asked.
I went to a gynecologist once and got tested, but they said I didn’t have any STIs, and there were no issues with my discharge or vagina either.
I want him to go down on me again, but I feel like the fact that he stopped means he doesn’t like it, so I don’t have the courage to ask.
What should I do?
(I don’t want just anyone to do it—I only want the man I like to.)
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
I tried to imagine the papa’s reasons:
- It started smelling down there
- She gets wet enough without cunnilingus
- He found out she was seeing multiple people
Those are the possibilities that came to mind.
Maybe try saying, “Go down on me,” and see how he reacts?
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Teramoto from the Tokyo branch of Universe Club will answer as well.
Try asking sweetly. I don’t think there are many men who would be put off by being asked that during intimacy and think, “Whoa…”
If you ask naturally in the moment, men’s IQ is basically lowered anyway (or is that just me?), so honestly, they probably won’t even notice any smell or anything else… They’ll just go along with it.
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I’m Shingo Lee, a columnist.
Try telling him, “This feels good, but it might feel even better if you went down on me.”
Saying, “This feels good, but it might feel even better if you did ___ for me” lets you ask without hurting his pride. If he won’t go along with it when you ask this way, I don’t think he would no matter how you put it.
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Maezawa from the president’s office here as well.
I think you should just ask him to do it.
I don’t think it necessarily means he stopped because he dislikes you. He may have simply come to feel, somewhere along the way, that he didn’t need to.
I don’t know what made him think that, but if he’s someone you like, perhaps he assumes it’s because you get wet easily?
It’s also possible that he was just rather lazy to begin with.
I think it would be best to ask without holding back.
Oh, come to think of it, a few years ago there was feedback from a man saying that a piece of tissue had been left on a woman’s private area.
If you wash properly when you shower, it shouldn’t remain, but perhaps some women wash their bodies while only lightly washing that area.
It’s also possible that a piece of tissue just happened to be there, and that led to what happened afterward.
So I think it would be better to wash that area thoroughly when you shower.
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I’m Ayase Nana♡
Cunnilingus feels so good, doesn’t it?
Once, someone went down on me for too long—about 30 minutes—and I started bleeding. I thought, “Why does it hurt?” Then I realized his face was covered in blood（笑）
If it feels good, don’t hold back your voice—just let yourself enjoy it.
When I orgasm from cunnilingus and he keeps going, I start squirting. If he then licks that too, it becomes this loop that makes me feel like my body is going to short-circuit.
☆Does licking the anus count as cunnilingus too? Could someone please tell me?
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I’m Dai, a male member.
He may have done it at first, but perhaps he was never really into cunnilingus to begin with.
Now that he’s grown closer to you, he may have gradually stopped doing it.
It’s important for you to let him know that you’d like him to do it, too.
You could also try sixty-nine. It makes it easier to say, “I’ll do it for you, too.”
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I’m male member Paper Airplane.
Just casually say, “Lick me.”
If you want your nipples licked while she’s going down on you, say, “Lick my nipples too.”
If you don’t say anything, and you’re already wet enough that cunnilingus isn’t really necessary, things will often naturally move forward without it.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
I’d rather not answer indecent questions, but since this is the only late-night question, here goes… (lol)
Basically, I think you get aroused more quickly when you actually like someone.
Whether it’s at a dating club or in the adult entertainment industry, a lot of people don’t get aroused because they’re being intimate with someone they don’t really like. But using oral can usually get things going to a certain extent, so that’s what they do. There are issues like body odor and the risk of STIs, but if she doesn’t get aroused, things can’t go any further, so there isn’t much choice. On the other hand, someone who gets aroused without oral is rare. It could simply be her physical makeup, but if genuine feelings are involved, I’d be happy about that and want to cherish it, so I wouldn’t use oral. If that happens repeatedly, you start to feel that the ideal is being able to get intimate with her becoming aroused naturally, without oral.
Men are all different, so I can’t say this for certain, but I read the question and thought, “If it were me, I’d probably feel that way,” so I wanted to share my thoughts.
So if you want him to use oral, I think you should just tell him directly. But before that, you should clearly tell him that you like him. If he understands your feelings, you’ll both be happy—and even if he doesn’t feel the same way, a decent man would still treat you with care if a woman told him that.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think she was probably working up the courage to ask for it.
Anal licking is called anilingus. The first part of cunnilingus comes from the Latin word for “vulva,” and the second part means “to lick.”
Come to think of it, this didn’t happen at a club, but I once lost interest a little when I noticed a piece of toilet paper stuck to a woman’s anus. Still, some people actually give feedback about something as minor as toilet paper being left there...
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