How can I politely turn down a papa (a male supporter) who asks me to clean his ears?
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Does he realize how unhygienic that is…
It’s incredibly rude.
I’d be okay with it if I got an extra allowance, though.
As long as I can wear disposable gloves.
I’m Dai, a male member.
What’s wrong with just cleaning his ears for him?
You get an allowance for it, right?
There are ear-cleaning specialty shops in Tokyo, aren’t there?
You just want to lie with a beautiful woman’s head in your lap while she cleans your ears—that’s all you’re dreaming of.
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You don’t like it, huh…
I only date people who are clean and well-groomed—and even if they occasionally have a nose hair sticking out, they’re the kind of person I can laugh and say, “Hey, you’ve got a nose hair showing.”
If something makes you uncomfortable, then you shouldn’t have to do it. And I imagine you probably don’t want to look inside someone’s ears either.
Maybe try saying something like:
“I’m not very good at cleaning ears. If there’s no adult relationship involved and we take our time, I’ll do my best, though…”
What do you think?
Akari
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I’m Joe, a male member.
Please recommend the barbershop at the Hyatt Regency Tokyo to that papa (a male supporter). There’s a legendary ear-cleaning lady there who’s said to have heavenly hands. The price is ¥38,500 for the full service, including the haircut, though cheaper ear-cleaning-only options are also available.
If you’ll be providing the service yourself, please use this price as a reference.
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I’m a male member and a total loser.
Maybe you could say, “I’m really clumsy with my hands—I once injured my boyfriend’s eardrum and he had to have surgery.” That might work.
For what it’s worth, I’m a smelly old geezer, but girls still clean my ears normally.
That said, be careful: girls who clean your ears are potential genuine-love cases.
Women who see their papa (a male supporter) as half-boyfriend will happily clean your ears, while those who strongly view it as a transactional relationship almost never will.
That’s about the size of it.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I think the only way to make it clear that you don’t want to do something is to hint at money.
“It’ll cost extra—is that okay? lol”
The “lol” is the key.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I don’t remember the exact wording, but I think you could say, “That’s fine if you’re willing to increase my allowance.”
It wasn’t about ear cleaning, but a woman once said that to me when I made a certain request.
If wearing a disposable glove is your non-negotiable boundary, you should mention it when negotiating a higher allowance.
That said, it’s fascinating how different people’s preferences can be—being okay with giving oral, but considering it rude to ask for ear cleaning.
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