I’ve been seeing a girl for exactly a year now. Even though she’s beautiful and probably very popular, she meets me for a fairly modest allowance, so I asked why she’d continued seeing me for a whole year. She said it’s because I always keep my promises and have a clean, well-groomed appearance.
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I suppose that was an honest answer, but after seeing each other for a year, I couldn’t help thinking, “Is that really the only reason?” Even if it wasn’t true, I wanted her to say that she enjoyed spending time with me.
I’ve somehow lost interest. Would it be narrow-minded of me to keep my distance for a while because of this?
I’m Fuu, a columnist.
You’re going to take some time apart?!
From such a wonderful girl!!
By all means, go ahead.
She’s beautiful, and both her allowance and personality are modest, right?
Please, please introduce her to me, Fuu.
Given her age, women tend to go through plenty of life events and changes in circumstances, so I’d say it’s pretty rare for a woman not to be the one to end things within a year.
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I’m Osaka, a male member.
I was shocked by Shingori-san’s answer lol
I once asked a question similar to yours, and the response that really stuck with me was, “That’s a secret—just between us ♡” Don’t you think it’s a sneaky, but not a bad, answer?
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I’m Basil, a male member.
I know it would be disappointing if all you could say was that she kept her promises—meaning she reliably paid—but I figure having a clean, well-groomed appearance at least puts her at the minimum level of someone I’d be willing to get intimate with, so that’s more than enough for me.
I’m actually grateful that such a beautiful woman with modest allowance payments stayed with me for an entire year.
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I’m Joe, a male member.
I think I understand how you feel. But if someone told Joe he had a “clean, well-groomed appearance,” he’d be absolutely over the moon. It might feel a little underwhelming, but I’d say it’s still a pretty decent compliment. What do you think?
In the first place, Joe’s impression is that truly broad-minded men are few and far between, so I don’t think you need to worry about it too much.
“I’m even more narrow-minded,” I muttered, and C-chan beside me nodded emphatically.
Ah, so it really is true!
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I think it’s because you meet the minimum requirements as a papa. She probably doesn’t have an extremely generous papa at the moment, either. She may be making money by keeping several papas who aren’t a burden to her.
I have a feeling that the fact she won’t say the things you want to hear is probably the limit of what she can offer.
If she’s that beautiful, I think you’ll want to see her again even after taking some time apart, so I think it’s worth doing.
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I’m a male member who goes by “Paper Airplane.”
Once again, I’m expecting too much from the other person…
Basically, isn’t the questioner’s level of satisfaction—or reaction—too muted?
The woman feels fulfilled when she sees how happy you are.
You make her happy, show her how satisfied and pleased you are, and give her an allowance as a gesture of appreciation. In this world, the person who gives money to the opposite sex is overwhelmingly the one in the weaker position.
It’s ridiculous to ask why things work that way beforehand—or to think you can’t understand it without asking.
P.S.
I’m told all of the following by almost every woman I meet:
・You have a clean, well-groomed appearance
・You’re serious
・You have nice skin
・You look young for your age
・You’re the type I’d want to marry
・I’m jealous of anyone who gets to be your girlfriend
I’m sure Marika and Papua could testify to that if necessary.
Should I be more concerned? Concerned about what in the first place? (笑)
I realize I’m exactly the same way. At first glance, it probably means I lack the kind of appeal that makes me seem like a womanizer or playboy.
But in exchange, women don’t feel wary of me. They feel safe and trust me, so I can ease into things incredibly smoothly. Before they know it, they’re saying, “You’re such a playboy,” even though I’ve already gotten close to them without them feeling any caution, resistance, or discomfort.
Since I don’t look like a playboy, they trust what I say without questioning it.
In some cases, I feel that someone who doesn’t look like a womanizer is actually easier to control as you want.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
It may simply be that your partner felt embarrassed or wasn’t good at putting her thoughts into words, which is why she didn’t say, “Because I enjoy spending time with you.”
But if your feelings have cooled, I think it’s perfectly fine to keep your distance since this is, after all, an allowance-based relationship. You don’t have to force yourself to be broad-minded.
I’m sure she’ll also consider “because you always keep your promises and have a clean, well-groomed appearance” a good enough reason to continue seeing you, even though this is ultimately an allowance-based relationship.
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I’m Shingo Lee (Shingori), a columnist.
Most likely, you’re simply boring and lack appeal as a man.
I think she was indirectly expressing her honest feelings: “You’re sensible and generous, and I’d rather not go through the hassle of looking for a new papa.”
Blaming the woman is clearly the wrong thing to do.
If anything, strive to become so attractive that she’ll say, “You don’t have to give me any more money—please see me again.”
*Of course, don’t make it your goal to actually stop receiving money. That was just an example.*
By the way, the following compliments are actually reframings that imply you lack appeal as a man. If someone says them to you, take it as a wake-up call:
- You have a clean, well-groomed look.
- You’re serious and dependable.
- You have beautiful skin.
- You look young for your age.
- You’re the type I’d want to marry.
- I envy anyone who gets to be your girlfriend.
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