When I have an aversion to my papa (a male supporter) and no longer want to meet him, I’ve been saying I’m not feeling well to avoid seeing him. Does that leave a bad impression?
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What would be an appropriate way to turn him down?
I’m Basil, a male member.
As long as it’s not a last-minute cancellation on the day of the meeting, there’s nothing wrong with declining.
In fact, if you want to keep seeing even a man like this because of financial circumstances, it’s better for your own sake to turn him down than to meet him while clearly looking unhappy and end up being completely disliked.
When giving a reason, it’s safer to vary it each time—work, a part-time job, family matters, or not feeling well, for example. Even if he starts to suspect something, I think he’ll be put off if you tell him the real reason.
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I’m Osaka, a male member.
I’m worried about the questioner, who seems to feel even worse after getting replies like, “Are you okay, [name]? I’m worried about you. I wanted to see you~”
“Are you okay? I’m worried about you.”
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You’re really not cut out for this, so maybe you should step down.
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Maezawa from the president’s office here, answering as well.
I think simply saying, “I’m not feeling well,” should be fine.
This may be a bit of a stereotype, but there’s an image that women tend to feel unwell more easily, so if you say that, people will probably just think, “I suppose that happens.”
As for the impression it gives, they may think you’re someone who gets sick easily, but I don’t think it would be enough to leave a bad impression.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
It doesn’t leave the best impression, but I think it sounds better than giving the real reason—that you’re not in a good place mentally.
Rather than saying you’re feeling physically unwell, I can’t think of a more neutral excuse, so I think that’s probably the best thing to say.
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