Do men really care about a woman’s inner qualities? Or do they just pretend to, without actually considering them that important? They’re driven by sexual desire, aren’t they?
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Is it really only about physical preference and compatibility in bed?
When a man says he isn’t acting solely out of sexual desire, it feels like an excuse to me. What do you think?
Even when they meet a girl with a truly wonderful personality, they still cheat on her.
Universe Club Customer Success representative Karazaki here.
I think most people do keep an eye on that. In fact, the women who receive the most offers through the club are almost always not only attractive but also have great personalities.
Besides, cheating isn’t really part of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Both men and women enter these arrangements knowing that the other person may also be seeing someone else.
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I’m Karasaki from Universe Club Customer Success, and I’d like to answer as well.
I think most people are aware of that. In fact, the women who receive the most offers through the club are almost always attractive not only in appearance but also in personality.
To begin with, cheating isn’t really a thing in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Both men and women participate knowing that the other person may also be seeing someone else.
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I’m Fuu, a columnist.
As someone who’s driven by sexual desire, what else could I say? (LOL) According to that “brain personality” thing, I’m 70% sex-obsessed.
So yes, having a good personality alone isn’t enough.
I want someone who’s attractive, great in bed, and also has a good personality.
You wouldn’t want a papa who had a nice personality but lacked a sense of cleanliness and offered a low allowance, would you?
Just as women can overlook a papa’s minor flaws if he offers a high allowance, I can overlook a woman’s personality and minor flaws when she’s exceptionally good in bed.
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I’m Basil, a male member.
I’m not looking for someone to marry, so no matter how wonderful her personality is, I’ll still want to see other women as well. That’s just how men are, and I joined an exclusive dating club precisely because it lets me express that instinct openly.
Even if we’re compatible in terms of looks and intimacy, I’ll eventually get bored if that’s all there is. On the other hand, if her personality is awful, I’ll cut things off after one or two meetings—so in fact, I place tremendous importance on it.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
When people talk about someone’s “inner qualities,” doesn’t that generally include things like their occupation, whether they seem trustworthy, the way they speak, their vocabulary, and the overall impression they give off?
No matter how beautiful someone’s face is, for example, my papa prefers a refined, elegant type, so he doesn’t like girls who talk like flashy gyaru or a person to avoid. Personally, though, I think those girls’ faces are cute.
At first, I looked at my incredibly popular, handsome older papa and thought, “Wow… his sex drive must be intense.” But after observing him, I’ve come to realize that he apparently does pay attention to a woman’s inner qualities too. At least from the second meeting onward, it doesn’t seem to be just about looks.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
> “Isn’t saying ‘I’m not motivated solely by sexual desire’ just an excuse? What do you think?”
That depends on how broadly you define the terms.
For example, if someone were motivated purely by sexual desire, there’d be no need for the partner to be a woman at all. Any hole would do—even something like a TENGA.
That, to me, would be a state of pure sexual desire.
If appearance comes into play, then it’s true that it’s no longer solely about sexual desire. At the very least, there’s also a separate desire to be intimate with an actual human being.
And when it comes to personality, I’m sure people also have preferences, such as not wanting someone who makes a scene everywhere they go.
At the very least, it seems they want a woman who is considerate, so they probably care about her personality too.
> “Even if you meet a girl with a really good personality, you’ll still cheat on her.”
Did you just get cheated on?
Please stop using the question box to vent your frustration.
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“Cheating, cheating…” Seriously, are you for real? Are you all alone?
In everyday life, all sorts of things become criteria for making decisions. But at a paid dating club, it’s only natural that people tend to prioritize physical chemistry and looks.
—Akari
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Looking beyond a woman’s appearance and getting to know her inner self has nothing to do with whether she cheats. Even women with wonderful personalities engage in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and some date multiple supporters.
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