There are a lot of unpopular men among the male members, aren’t there? Why can’t you realize that women would never tell you their real number of sexual partners or why they joined?

I’m Fuu, a column writer. Reading the questions, I can’t help thinking: Women who constantly bash their papas in irritated, snappy, prickly posts are treated that way because of their personalities. The good papas cut them off. Who’d want someone who thinks like that? That leaves only the papas who can’t find anyone but women like them—pathetic, dried-up papas（笑） It’s a vicious cycle. Kind of sad, really. You can’t easily change other people, but you can start changing yourself tomorrow.

I’m Aya, a female member. “There are plenty of women who have several papas, each of whom pays her hundreds of thousands of yen.” That part is definitely true. But the real deal is not letting it show and responding with a smile. My papas don’t say anything as awful as what’s described in the question, but if one of them did, I’d tell him, “You’re just a lousy old man who can only pick up women with money!!” So I’d be fine. For your own peace of mind, I think it’s best to find a generous (well-paying) papa who’ll forgive you for saying something like that.

It’s Joe. This was the first question in a while that actually made me want to answer, so if I may, I’ll give it a shot. ・You’re not exactly popular with women, are you? →Nope, that’s right. ・All that talk about two digits and three digits… →If it’s two digits, I wouldn’t be surprised. Joe’s daughter had the peculiar habit of bringing her boyfriends home from high school onward. I met more than ten of them before she got married. When she was in high school, I even gave her condoms. But if someone told me it was three digits, I wouldn’t faint—I’d probably be surprised. ・It’s all about the money. →I believe I understand that. Whether I’m meeting expectations sufficiently is another matter, though. ・The club staff said this and that… →So you really take what they say at face value. You have quite a unique personality, Questioner—and I mean that as a compliment. Joe suspects that the staff’s explanation is actually a minority reason for why male members join. That’s only a suspicion, of course. ・Things women dislike, and so on… →I’m sure Joe probably does things women dislike. However, the examples you gave are precisely the things Joe would never say. I think people who save money are idiots (though I do it because Joe himself is an idiot), I’m made to give brand-name items as gifts without question, I believe women become even more attractive after thirty, and I generally think marriage offers women relatively few benefits, so I don’t recommend it either. A collection of things Joe has said that may be considered inappropriate: ・Let’s film ourselves together! ・Would you have a lesbian experience with one of the other women I’m seeing? ・Can I meet your boyfriend? ・Can I call in a rope-bondage expert? ・Can I call in a “dick expert”? ・Want me to introduce you to a handsome guy? ・Can we try a gang-rape roleplay? And so on. I should add, immodestly, that every one of these things has actually happened. The human dynamics at dating clubs are probably every bit as bizarre and complicated as the situation in Europe—if not more so than the questioner imagines. Wait, this wasn’t actually an answer, was it? My apologies!

There’s really no need to go out of your way to say things like that. And dragging the staff member’s words into it too— “[So-and-so] said that as well!” What are you, a kindergartener? I’m sure there are some men with bad manners, but for the most part, aren’t they people who understand perfectly well what they’re doing, even if they still go along with it...? You’re basically saying: “I’ll let even someone who makes me want to throw up be intimate with me if I get paid ♡” Simply put: “Just give me money, okay? ♡” Wouldn’t it be better to write it with a little more awareness of your position? Doing this to a club that you should be grateful to for giving you the opportunity to earn an amount of money beyond your means— that’s just business interference, plain and simple. —Akari

Seattle. M-my favorite girl is devoted to me, y-you know. I-I used to be unpopular, but now that I’m rich, I’m apparently in high demand. That must mean I’ve become more attractive and handsome, so she’d see me even without money. She says I’m the only one for her, so I have to support her for the rest of my life. Since I’m barrel-shaped and hairy, it must be true. But I don’t really understand how she can afford to live alone without an allowance or even a part-time job. It’s also strange that she can hardly meet on weekends. She must have TV shows she wants to watch.

I read that ridiculous question first thing this morning. People are different—men and women alike. —Paper Airplane, a male member.

I’m a male member—and a complete loser. I lost my virginity through Universe Club. I’m an old man who’s short, fat, bald, and ugly on the inside too, so I solve everything with money. “Unpopular with women” is a pretty mild way of putting it. You must be a very kind person, questioner. I’ve spent most of my life being told, “Stay away from me, you old man. Go die,” so I might actually fall for you. I fully understand that, without money, I’m basically nonexistent in women’s eyes. That’s why I make sure to offer allowances higher than anyone else’s. Sorry for being alive m(｡>__<｡)m

I’m Dai, a male member. I had to laugh at the idea of being shocked by someone having had two or three dozen partners. Honestly, not reporting it accurately is probably for your own benefit. If your number of past partners is that high, you’re sure to get fewer offers. Some men may not be popular with women, but that doesn’t mean most men are. Plenty of them date and get married normally. If you’re only receiving offers from men who ask you nothing but unpleasant questions, then you have my sincere sympathy.

I’m Nana Ayase ♡ Ahh, that’s the kind of thing a company boss might say and get accused of sexual harassment for. But at a dating club, you can’t really take someone to court over sexual remarks, so I guess it can’t be helped. I also think “Women need to get married by 30” is a pretty ordinary thing to say. So if someone tells you that, you could play along and say, “I’m postponing marriage so I can meet someone wonderful,” and have a little fun with them.