I went to a hotel buffet with a woman I met through Universe, but apparently there was a dress code. I showed up in my company work clothes and we were turned away.
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Since we couldn’t get into anywhere else, we went to a family restaurant, but she told me, “I didn’t expect you to come in rubber boots and work clothes.”
Do you all pay attention to what you wear?
I’m Basil, a male member.
In the papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) world, if the choice is between a man in work clothes and rubber boots who offers 30,000 yen pay-per-meeting, and a man in a luxury-brand suit who also offers 30,000 yen pay-per-meeting, which one would most women choose?
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I’m actually into men in work clothes, so I like the look. But if you’re going to come dressed like that, let’s go to an izakaya instead of a hotel—especially on occasions like that.
If it’s a woman you’ve already become quite comfortable with, work clothes are fine. But with papa-katsu, I do wish they’d make a bit more of an effort to look stylish.
Also, doesn’t your company name happen to be embroidered on your chest? I can’t help worrying whether that’s really okay.
Maybe it’s their way of saying, “I’m not doing anything shady.”
Oh, and rubber boots seem like they’d smell, so I’m not a fan. Sorry if yours are odorless.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I honestly can’t understand why anyone would go to a hotel in work clothes in the first place…
Have you never been to a hotel before?
You need to dress appropriately for the time, place, and occasion.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I do pay attention to how I dress. Since I’m not exactly blessed in the looks department, that’s something I can make up for through effort. So I take care of things like cleanliness, my hair, clothes, physique, bad breath, and so on.
I also naturally look up anything I can find out in advance. I pay attention to things like the route and walking distance on the date, and what kind of shoes she’s wearing. If she’s in high heels or her bag looks heavy, I’ll use a taxi. If she has long hair, I might bring a scrunchie depending on what we’re eating. I never take her somewhere where her outfit would make her stand out, and if the date spot is near where she lives, I absolutely won’t hold her hand. Sorry, this is getting tedious to write out.
I’m just naturally very considerate of everything, in every direction.
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I’m Ayase Nana♡
☆Mr. Maezawa (sweat), he’s a gentleman.
It’s strange that he was even able to register with Universe wearing rubber boots and work clothes.
☆Wouldn’t it be better to leave this man in Mr. Mamiya’s hands?
If it were me, I’d say, “Let’s just call it a day.” He clearly doesn’t know basic manners.
It’s only natural for a hotel restaurant to have a dress code. Golf courses have dress codes too.
☆To the person who asked:
Please wear a suit and leather shoes to your date. You’ll be able to enter the hotel. Make sure your hair is neat as well.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I do put a fair amount of thought into what I wear. My papas say they don’t care about clothes, but I still feel there’s a certain minimum standard. I’d guess over 90% of women in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) make an effort with their appearance.
For example, tomorrow I’m having lunch at the Grand Hyatt—probably sushi—so I’m thinking of wearing high heels instead of casual boots. Since he’ll be able to see my upper body across the table, I’m also considering a neat, feminine blouse rather than a simple knit top. It’s fun thinking about whether my papa (a male supporter) will like the outfit, too.
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I’m Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu, and I’ll answer this as well.
I’ve heard of men being surprised when someone showed up in sneakers, but this is the first time I’ve heard of a woman going on a date in rubber boots and work clothes.
I’m curious what kind of job she had.
For one thing, I’ve never seen a woman in rubber boots and work clothes while walking around town or riding the train, so I’d say it’s pretty rare.
If by rubber boots they meant long boots, and by work clothes they meant a uniform, then I suppose it wouldn’t be all that strange.
Still, not being allowed into the restaurant is quite something.
The man must have been pretty shocked too.
It seems like this goes beyond simply not putting enough thought into your clothes.
That said, there was once a man who showed up in a tracksuit—and apparently he was already drunk and acting strangely—and we received a complaint from the woman saying it was completely unacceptable.
So sometimes I do wonder what’s going on with both men and women.
As for men, I only know of that one case. I’m not sure whether we’ve received complaints about women; I’d have to look into it.
In any case, it’s definitely a rare occurrence.
P.S.
> ☆Mr. Maezawa (sweat) The rubber boots were worn by the man.
Ah, I misunderstood.
So the man showed up dressed that way, and the woman was the one who told you about it.
I was wondering because I’d never seen a woman in work clothes.
Even so, just because he’s a man doesn’t make showing up in work clothes acceptable.
Maybe Universe needs to teach people even things like that?
What a headache.
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