I’m a male member who always gets the short end of the stick.
When I date a girl from Tokyo in Nagoya, I give her:
1. ¥30,000 for a round-trip Shinkansen Green Car ticket between Tokyo and Nagoya
2. ¥10,000 each way for her travel time, so ¥20,000 round trip
3. Her pay-per-meeting allowance
I give her the total of ① + ② + ③.
Of course, when I go to Tokyo, I only pay ③.
That said, if she’s not really one of my favorites, I might leave out ②.
I really am an awful man, aren’t I...?
I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer this as well.
Are you someone who hasn’t been briefed on the club’s rules?
Or perhaps this question is from someone who isn’t a member?
Under Universe Club’s rules:
When a man invites a woman from far away, he must cover the full actual cost of her round-trip transportation (meaning a bullet train or plane—not an overnight bus).
He must also cover the actual cost of a hotel where the woman can stay alone.
(The man is not allowed to enter that room.)
If he wants to stay in the same room as her, even if the woman says she’s fine with it, he still isn’t allowed to stay in her room. So even if the original room fee goes to waste, he has to book a separate room for himself.
In addition, he must give her ¥10,000 as a payment labeled “transportation expenses,” separate from the actual transportation costs.
Even after all that, if the woman declines anything beyond dinner, the date ends with dinner only (no intimacy).
Some men seem to assume that if a woman travels a long way to see them, she’ll almost certainly agree to an adult relationship (intimate). But I want to tell women this:
Don’t feel that you have to go along with anything just because it would be difficult to refuse. You’re allowed to say no whenever you want. And don’t think you have to endure it just because it’s only for one day.
If you do find it difficult to refuse, tell the man an allowance amount that would make you feel comfortable—perhaps ¥100,000 or ¥150,000.
Most men would probably give up at that point. And if a man is willing to pay that amount, then it means the woman should be able to accept the terms of the arrangement, since she was the one who named the amount.
Please don’t travel far away only to have an unpleasant experience.
> In that case, what would the average total cost be?
If you’re inviting a woman from Tokyo to Osaka, for example:
- Actual transportation costs: around ¥30,000
- Payment labeled as transportation expenses: ¥10,000
- Dinner for two: around ¥30,000
- Hotel for the woman alone: around ¥10,000
That comes to ¥80,000 plus the allowance. So if the allowance were ¥70,000, the total would be around ¥150,000.
If you reduced dinner for two to around ¥10,000—which should be doable for lunch—the total would be around ¥130,000.
I’m Aya, a female member.
I was surprised to hear that some people don’t cover the actual transportation costs when going out with a woman from a dating club.
Whenever I travel to Kyushu with my papa (a male supporter), he always pays for my plane ticket. Since we have a monthly arrangement, I don’t receive any additional allowance.
That said, with a pay-per-meeting arrangement, I think offering something extra would make the girl more likely to continue. I feel that women are essentially giving their time.
I’m BB7.
Do you mean no transportation reimbursement and an allowance of 10,000 yen? Or do you mean 10,000 yen plus expenses?
You’re supposed to cover transportation and then increase the allowance on top of that.
It’s rude to expect someone to pay their own way to come from far away when you haven’t even met them. That would be different if you were offering 100,000 yen for dinner only (no intimacy), though.
I’m sorry, but I’m not quite sure what you mean. Your actual transportation costs will be covered in full, and the transportation expenses for the first meeting should be considered separately.
Which cost are you unsure about?!
My papa (a male supporter) gives me a Green Car Shinkansen ticket as well as an allowance.
When he asks me to come from far away, he usually adds a little extra to the allowance as a way of saying, “Thank you for coming all this way,” but I think that depends on how you look at it.
Marika
