From reading the questions and answers here, do many people consider someone they only meet once or twice a month to be unimportant—someone they wouldn’t mind losing touch with?
I’ve only ever met the men I’ve been involved with once or twice a month, so I was wondering.
I’m Dai, a male member.
I see each woman once a month. If she told me we had to meet once a week, I’d probably end the relationship.
I also have women I see once every two months.
That said, some women ask me when we’ll meet next.
There are men like that, too.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
That’s not necessarily the case. Once you establish a regular rhythm of meeting every month and become someone both sides can comfortably continue seeing, I think you’ll be valued by the other person—and I do feel I was valued fairly well myself.
That said, if you only meet once or twice a month, your priority will inevitably drop when either of you finds another generous (well-paying) papa or a favorite woman they see more frequently. I feel like that’s only natural.
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I’m a male member, and I feel like I’m losing at this.
I only see my ace—the girl I pay by far the highest allowance to and value the most—about twice a month on average. We only message about once a week, too.
That’s because I don’t want to waste her time by taking up too much of it. Our relationship is actually going really well.
On the other hand, I see girls who aren’t my ace three or four times a month, and I even travel with them. I’ve never traveled or stayed overnight with my ace.
Wait… am I getting taken for a ride by my ace? lol
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
That’s not necessarily the case.
My arrangements usually continue for around three years or a year and a half, with meetings about once a month.
They’re my favorite supporters, so I treat them with care and respect.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here, answering as well.
I think many men feel that meeting once or twice a month is just right. In that sense, the men you’ve met so far meeting you once or twice a month seems to match my own experience.
> Do most people think that someone they only meet once or twice a month is unimportant and not worth keeping in touch with?
Not at all, so please don’t worry.
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I’m Kamihikoki, a male member.
> Do most people consider someone they only see once or twice a month to be unimportant and not worth worrying about if the relationship ends?
If you’re continuing to see someone, it means they’re important to you, and meeting once or twice a month is often a comfortable distance that’s easy for both people to maintain without becoming a burden.
Please understand that this wording is generally used in response to questions like, “How can she have another papa when we only meet once or twice a month?” or, “We were so close, but they suddenly ended things”—to point out that you need to recognize that appropriate distance and maintain a good relationship.
There are also plenty of cases where people continue meeting once or twice a month precisely because they can’t bring themselves to let go—for example, because of their physical compatibility.
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I’m Basil, a male member.
I can find women to meet once or twice a month whenever I need to, so if a relationship ends, that’s just how it goes. I also don’t want to keep seeing someone by compromising with a woman whose terms or compatibility don’t work for me.
That said, there are some women I’d like to stay with for the long term, so it’s not that I’m indifferent about every arrangement.
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I’m Kazu, a male club member.
Most of the people answering here are fairly active in their club activities. From their perspective, I think many would consider someone they see only once or twice a month to be a less significant relationship. However, having a less close relationship is different from seeing someone as unimportant or as someone they wouldn’t mind losing.
For example, I also have someone I only see once or twice a month, but she’s still an important dating partner to me. However, if I had to choose between her and someone I see once a week, I would choose the person I see weekly.
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