I’m turning 30 this month, and I’m overwhelmed by the sadness of my twenties ending. I want to die.
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These days, there are so many cute women in their thirties who look like they’re still in their twenties, and I want to be one of them too.
What kind of woman should I aspire to be in order to stay youthful and cute?
Why do you think Kojiharu and Gakki get cuter every year?
I’m Aya, a female member.
Maybe you think that way because you’re only marketing your youth and femininity through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Haven’t you been running into too many papas with a thing for very young girls?
When I was 23, I was called an old hag by some truly awful men and had been subjected to some weird brainwashing. I was so afraid of turning 25—let alone entering my 30s—that I wanted to die. But after changing my surroundings and moving into a professional workplace where I could compete based on talent and ability regardless of age, my outlook changed. Professional careers are great.
Besides, even in the nightlife industry, there are plenty of women in their late 30s at Ginza clubs who are stunningly beautiful. I’d love to become someone like that. It makes me wonder whether there simply aren’t any attractive, shining men or women around you who aren’t held back by their age.
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You didn’t want to die when you turned 20 either, did you?
But once you actually turned 20, you were glad you didn’t die, right? I’m sure you’ll feel the same way about turning 30.
I got my first papa (a male supporter) when I was 30. I completed my first marathon after turning 30, too, and people only started telling me I was beautiful after I passed 30. I’d say my biggest period of popularity was probably in my mid-30s.
These days, with the help of a dating club, I’m enjoying even more fulfilling relationships.
I’m enjoying my work more now, too.
Kojiharu and Gakki are cute because they were naturally cute to begin with.
Marika
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This is Joe, a male member.
I have a simple question: Were your twenties really that fun and fulfilling?
I feel like 30 is still only the morning of your life. Personally, I wouldn’t want to go back to my twenties, though—it’s embarrassing to think about.
I’m currently living with Shi-chan, who’s in her twenties, so I asked her, “Don’t you want to turn 30?” She replied, “Hmm… I’ve never really thought about it, so I don’t know.” I’m sure people will have various opinions, but somehow I feel like Shi-chan has the right idea.
I’m off to Nishiki Market to do some shopping now. Sorry this wasn’t much of an answer.
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I’m Fuu, a columnist.
When I first joined the club, I enjoyed that almost intoxicating feeling of being with women in their teens and twenties, but being young comes with various issues, so those relationships didn’t last.
These days, my favorite is a woman in her thirties.
For women, youth is certainly an advantage, but there’s no need to be pessimistic about being in your thirties. With thoughtfulness, the maturity that comes from experience, and intimate skills, you can surpass women in their twenties overall and secure a monthly arrangement.
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I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
Your real life begins at 30, after you’ve made it through your inexperienced twenties and experienced all the usual ups and downs of life.
For both men and women, I think that’s when you can really start enjoying finding out whether you’re popular with the opposite sex.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here with an answer as well.
Once you’re in your 30s, I think more men will start looking for women in their 30s.
Why would a man offer to a woman in her 30s instead of a woman in her 20s?
I think it would be good to think carefully about that.
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This is Saito, the column writer♪
Beauty isn’t something that depends solely on your appearance.
Treat papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) as a fleeting chapter, and find a man outside of papa-katsu who appreciates the qualities you have beyond your youth.
I’m rooting for you.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I think it’s best to aim for an appearance that suits your age. If you try too hard to dress as though you’re defying your age, you may end up looking like, “Something’s off!”（笑）
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I’m in Seattle.
Kyoko Fukada looked beautiful when she was enjoying a fulfilling career, but before her hiatus, she looked worn out and older.
I think it comes down to whether you can live happily with minimal stress. If you can keep smiling, both men and women look better. Just don’t overdo the dieting—getting too thin can cause wrinkles.
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