I’m Shingo Lee—“Shingori,” a columnist.
I’m in my forties, yet I still spend most of my time with girls in their early twenties. Sometimes, the terrifying equation “her age × 2 = my age” actually applies, and it’s perfectly normal for me to be closer in age to their parents than to them…
Still, I feel truly sorry that they go out with me without receiving any money. I’m sure the punchline is that I’ll end up in hell when I die.
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I’m Ayase Nana ♡
What do you hope to achieve by listening to other people’s stress?
It sounds like you’re saying, “My middle school friends are like this, so I’m like this too.”
If you don’t like papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you can simply quit.
Do you really want people to listen to you talk about how stressed you are? You’re certainly not the only one dealing with stress. Some people develop stomach ulcers, while others even get bald spots from it.
Stress is something you need to release.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I guess it’s more stressful than a normal relationship… Just because he’s married, you could say I’m being taken lightly. And if he cheated on me with another girl, that would be the worst.
But I like his face and body, so I can still have feelings for him. I think genuinely falling for a papa (a male supporter) whose looks aren’t your type would be really tough.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
There may be some stress involved, but I imagine you’re continuing the relationship within what you can tolerate, right? It’s best not to push yourself too hard.
I think it’s better to have a relationship that’s comfortable, enjoyable, and mutually beneficial（笑）
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Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
If “gachi-koi” simply refers to men who are cheap and just want to sleep with you without paying an allowance, then even before worrying about the stress, I think you should stop seeing them.
“Gachi-koi” literally means genuinely falling in love. So if a man is truly gachi-koi, it means he’s seriously in love—so much so that if he had 100 million yen in assets, he’d be willing to give it all to the woman.
Anyone who says that kind of relationship would be stressful would probably feel stressed even in marriage or dating a man their own age.
Frankly, if a man is genuinely gachi-koi, he’ll spoil you, buy you the things you want, and even if you get a little angry, he’ll probably do his best to win you back.
So I really don’t understand how that could be stressful.
You’re probably talking about fake gachi-koi men. You should figure out whether the other person is genuinely gachi-koi or just pretending.
Though I do feel there are more fake gachi-koi men who simply want to sleep with someone for free.
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This is Osaka, a male member.
I seeee—dealing with the stress from papas who get genuinely attached, and the stress of papas whose true feelings can’t be fulfilled… it just keeps piling up.
Wouldn’t it be eco-friendly to make a car that runs on all that accumulated stress as energy? My autumn daydreams are getting deeper.
It’s started to get a little chilly lately lol.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
Stress? I think papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) works on the basis that you receive an allowance to make up for the difficult or unpleasant aspects of the experience.
People who:
- Feel the allowance makes it worthwhile
- Like older men and genuinely enjoy that kind of relationship
are probably well suited to this activity.
In papa-katsu, women have the right to say no, too.
Choosing a papa (a male supporter) who causes as little stress as possible may be the key to keeping stress from building up too much.
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I’m Basil, a male member.
Whenever you deal with people, some kind of stress is inevitable. It’s simply a matter of what kind of stress it is.
Compared with what you gain—money, experiences you normally wouldn’t have, and so on—it actually feels like relatively little.
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