He suggested going to Tokyo Skytree the day before, but it rained, so I messaged him, “It’s raining today, so let’s go another time.” He replied, “I guess I’m not that important to you.”
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How should I respond? Should I still suggest that we have dinner together tonight? This papa doesn’t take me shopping for clothes or anything like that.
I’m in Seattle.
Nine years ago, I went to Tokyo Skytree with my ex-wife and daughter in the rain.
When it rains, you end up above the clouds, so you can’t see anything and it’s pretty boring. If he understood that, though, then the guy is just being childish and sulking.
If he’s a generous papa (well-paying), suggest something else next time and make it up to him.
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This is Paper Airplane, a male member.
Maybe something like:
“I’m sorry for upsetting you.
I have a terrible headache because of the rain. I wanted to go somewhere I could get to despite the rain if it eased up a little, but I’m really not feeling well today… I’m truly sorry.”
That said, it’s pretty obvious that you only decided to go because she messaged you on LINE after turning you down once.
Either way, saying the rain was the reason is pretty shocking and leaves a bad impression.
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I’m Osaka, a male member.
More than anything, cancellations really sting. Forget the Skytree or the rain—I just want to feel that meeting me is a priority. If she thinks, “What a hassle!” then that was the right response; if she really wanted to meet, I don’t think she would’ve replied that way.
The person asking the question feels it would be fine if they were going shopping, so yeah… “What a hassle!” lol.
And there’s nothing wrong with that.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
When replying on social media, even a small thing can make the other person feel offended.
Start by saying, “I’m sorry if I upset you.”
Then add something like, “I’d still like to go on a date with you, so if you’re available, would you like to have dinner together tonight?” I think that would work well.
From next time on, even if it’s raining, I think it’s best to go to the agreed location first and then suggest going somewhere else from there.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think what upset her was that the date itself was canceled. You could suggest going somewhere where the rain won’t be an issue.
Suggesting dinner as a follow-up probably won’t completely make up for it, but I think it’s better than saying nothing.
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