My dinner-only papa keeps giving me long, deep kisses in the car after dinner and in secluded places during daytime dates. I’d like to avoid this somehow, so could you suggest a way to turn him down without hurting his feelings, and tell me how many deep kisses would be appropriate?
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As an aside, this papa suggested taking a trip together. When I asked about the allowance, he messaged me, “We’ve only known each other for two months, so I think it’s too soon. I want to continue seeing you for a long time, so I’ll be careful not to make you think I’m being thoughtless.”
Do you think he was planning to go on the trip without giving me an allowance?
Male sailor Osaka here.
Thinking that being an A-type means anything up to A is okay, lol. Those ABC labels are outdated, but maybe they’re still used by men of a certain age.
Anyway, since you’ve already gone as far as deep kissing, you can’t really call it “dinner only (no intimacy).” Are the two of you enjoying some kind of game where you push the line little by little?
If not, set your boundaries clearly and cut loose any man who says things that don’t make sense. The fact that you’re already thinking about how many times this might happen or how to avoid it means you’re in a risky situation too.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
As Dateyume-san said, I also get the impression that “dinner only” doesn’t include kissing. Westerners might kiss as a greeting, but I don’t think deep kissing is included either. So I’d say the number of times was zero.
I was surprised to learn that she would have agreed to travel with him depending on the allowance.
I think that man was either expecting no allowance at all or the same allowance as for dinner.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Haha（笑）
That’s a funny question（笑）
Since it’s dinner only, repeated deep kissing is out of the question.
Maybe try saying, “Just once, please（笑）”?
Also, you could tell him that travel isn’t on the table in the first place（笑）
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I’m Ayase Nana ♡
If it was dinner only, then you’re an A type, right?
Kissing is a no-go, surely.
A type means no physical contact, so all you can do is say, “I’m an A type, so please don’t kiss me or touch me.”
Since that’s your type, you should simply say goodbye.
You weren’t receiving 5 or 10 for that type of arrangement, were you?
You should report it to the club as well.
As for the trip, it’s pretty clear he intended to get it for free. A lot of people seem to misunderstand this.
I really wish people would properly respect their dating type.
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I’m in Seattle.
How about proposing ¥1,000 per second for a deep kiss? I heard that someone who worked at a maid reflexology shop had a ¥1,000 option for a 10-second hug.
As for the idiots who try to get you to travel with them for free, it might be best to cut them off—even if things end badly.
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