For women like me who receive few offers, I feel that men who make lots of offers mean, “If the woman before me gets dropped, maybe my chance will come around.”
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Am I wrong to think this?
So why do people call me a YSP for thinking this way?
Even if my chance does come around, I’m sure I’d be dropped soon anyway—but that’s still much better than having zero chances.
It’s not wrong to think that when a previous woman is cut off and a spot opens up, it’s your chance.
But if you’re hoping for a long-term relationship, don’t go into it assuming you’ll be cut off right away too. Approach the relationship with the goal of making it last.
Marika
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I’m Basil, a male member.
This is a bit off-topic, but if you cut ties with a girl even though you’d always paid her the agreed allowance, would that still be called YSP?
I thought the term was mainly used for casual arrangements outside dating clubs, where the guy gets intimacy for free.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I think your way of thinking is basically right.
That said, I think you should give a little more thought to making the most of the opportunities you have. It would be a shame to lose someone over this.
For example, if you maintained an arrangement with someone, you could be making six figures a year（笑）. That wouldn’t be bad, would it?
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I’m Dai, a male member.
So YSP stands for “sleep with her and then dump her,” right?
The questioner isn’t wrong in thinking that way.
A man might sleep with a woman and then drop her, but women may also end things with a man after seeing him once, so it goes both ways.
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
> The previous woman gets dropped ⇒ your chance comes around
I think that’s perfectly fine.
> Even when a chance comes around, I get dropped right away.
Girls at that level don’t receive offers.
Try to figure out what you’re doing wrong through trial and error. This has come up in questions many times before, hasn’t it? Staff member Mr. Mamiya even wrote about what to do, didn’t he?
Look things up and think for yourself. In your current state, doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is pointless. You’re wasting your time. You can’t just rely on others—think about what you would do if you were in the opposite position.
Are you really okay staying this way for the rest of your life?
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
YSP stands for “use ’em and lose ’em,” right? I don’t think it’s being especially criticized.
I think women who say they were “used and discarded” are simply blaming the men, claiming that the relationship ended because they got bored easily.
A male member’s budget and time are limited, so if things end with another woman, that may mean your chance has come around.
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