Is it standard to give a blowjob when you meet while on your period?
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I got my period much earlier than expected, four days before we were supposed to meet, so I asked the man if we could reschedule.
He said he wanted to have dinner together and genuinely wanted to see me, so I thought we would just eat and agreed to meet.
I wondered what would happen with my allowance, but since he was someone I had been seeing on a monthly arrangement, I intended to meet him without payment as a gesture of appreciation for everything up to that point.
However, after dinner, he took me to his apartment as usual and told me to give him a blowjob. He also licked my breasts and kissed me in bed, although he didn’t have penetrative sex with me. He hadn’t even showered.
He gave me my usual allowance, so I have no complaints.
But it did make me feel that I’m simply there to satisfy his sexual urges.
He wouldn’t do this with his wife or his primary girlfriend when they were on their periods, would he?
I’m BB7.
Whether she’s his wife or his main girlfriend, most men wouldn’t go through with it if she firmly refused.
Did you firmly refuse?
If you didn’t, then things simply went that way, and it is what it is.
If you did refuse and he still went ahead, then he either sees you as someone to satisfy his sexual urges, or he’s the kind of man who does that with anyone.
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I’m a male member who goes by Paper Airplane.
On the other hand, if she were my wife or girlfriend, I’d go further and have sex with her.
And when she was my girlfriend, we hadn’t seen each other in a while, so I gave her an allowance of 20,000 yen after she only gave me oral because of the pandemic. She was very happy and said, “That’s so much.”
Please try to be happy when a man properly gives you your allowance, too.
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I’m Shingo Lee, a column writer.
Whether she’s your girlfriend or your wife, if you don’t see her every day, it’s bound to feel that way. We’re creatures who want to cuddle and be affectionate—and when we do, we naturally get worked up.
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I’m Basil, a male member.
Even with my wife or serious girlfriend, I’d still ask for it.
Also, what are you hoping to get out of this? Do you want to be treated like an ordinary girlfriend and cherished without an allowance?
Please understand that, for most men in this world, satisfying their sexual desires is the top priority.
If he takes you out to dinner and gives you the usual allowance, you’re being valued to a reasonable extent.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
That’s true. If you asked for a blowjob out of consideration because you were receiving an allowance for an adult relationship, you’d take a shower first, right?
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I don’t think it’s only about satisfying sexual urges, but I imagine that, for many men, one of the main reasons is wanting to deal with urges they can’t otherwise manage in an appropriate way.
They probably choose a dating club rather than a sex-service establishment because they’re looking for something extra.
It feels like one of those situations where they didn’t originally intend to do anything and met up anyway, but then started wanting to a little—while not having showered because they hadn’t planned on doing anything—and things gradually went in that direction.
If you’d told him, “I’ll give you oral, so go take a shower,” he might have done it.
I imagine men with such strong sex drives probably made similar demands of their wives or girlfriends, too. Their wives or girlfriends might dislike it or get angry, but with an allowance-based arrangement, I think there’s less chance of that happening.
I’m also glad your allowance wasn’t reduced just because you didn’t do anything. Looking at the questions here, it seems like a lot of people invite someone like that to their own apartment.
Marika
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
What are you looking for from that man? Love? Money? At the end of the day, this is a dating club.
If it’s not your heaviest day, I think it’s okay to use a sponge. Keep firmly in mind that this is a transactional relationship—if you genuinely fall for him, breaking up will be painful.
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I’m Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu, and I’ll answer as well.
If you wanted to show your appreciation because you had been seeing him regularly, then I think you’re a very kind person.
That man probably does the same thing when he sees his primary girlfriend, too. Only he knows how he feels about you, but I don’t think you need to be that sad.
Just because he wanted an intimate relationship doesn’t mean he only wanted your body. If that were all he wanted, some men would be satisfied with 10,000 yen, and some might even pay less.
There may even be men who would rather go to a sex-service establishment. But your partner doesn’t seem to be like that. I think he doesn’t want things to be completely non-intimate, but at the same time, he doesn’t see you as just a body.
Maybe that’s a little hard to understand.
> He said, “I’d like to have dinner with you and genuinely see you, even if it’s just dinner,” so I met him thinking it would be dinner only.
Given the way he put it, I think it was perfectly natural for you to assume it would be dinner only. In fact, I think more than half of men would keep it to dinner only.
However, your partner turned out to be different. Since there are other men like that as well, I think it’s best to be prepared for the possibility that someone may make the same request in the future.
> I received my usual allowance, so I have no complaints.
That’s good. Some men reduce the allowance because there was no intercourse, so perhaps your partner is a decent person after all.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
If she had said, “Since it’s dinner only, there’s no need for an allowance,” he might have acted differently.
I don’t want to call it the norm, but I remember that she would give me oral sex.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
You say you have no complaints, but you’re clearly full of them.
I won’t deny that it’s about satisfying sexual urges. But isn’t money your goal too?
I think you’re much the same as men who want to date you without giving you an allowance.
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