I have a papa (a male supporter) I only met about once a month. We only contacted each other to arrange dates, so compared with my other papas, it was a pretty casual relationship.
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Recently, he’s started asking if we could talk on the phone sometimes, inviting me on trips, calling me by my first name without honorifics, and asking if I have anything I’m worried about... His behavior has clearly changed.
It feels creepy, like he’s suddenly trying to get much closer to me. Is this something I shouldn’t worry about?
I’m BB7.
“Creepy”… lol.
Maybe things ended with another woman, he’s dealing with some personal problems, or he’s getting more and more emotionally invested?
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I’m Basil, a male member.
Either her trial period is over and she’s been promoted to a top-tier partner, or she’s trying to switch to a relationship without any money involved.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office will answer this one as well.
> I feel uneasy because it seems like he’s suddenly getting much closer to me. Do you think I should not worry about it?
I think he’s gradually started to like you.
Of course, within the context of a relationship where you receive an allowance.
So I don’t think you need to feel creeped out. If anything, you could use this to your advantage and have him buy you something you’ve been wanting.
(As I’ve said before, don’t outright ask for things. Think about how you can get him to buy them for you without directly asking.)
You could say something like, “A lot of expenses have come up lately. Maybe I should look for a new papa?”—which really means, “The allowance isn’t enough, so I’d like you to give me more.”
There are plenty of ways to go about it.
If you push too hard, though, you’ll turn him off, so you need to walk that fine line as part of the negotiation.
Still, I think this is an opportunity, so it may be worth making a move.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
If she’s clearly acting differently, something may have changed.
For example, she may have come into a significant amount of money and now be able to meet more often than before…
Either way, I think the best thing to do is ask her when you meet.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
As Marika said, I think something must have happened to make the poster take a real interest in him and start pursuing things more seriously.
If it’s within what you’re comfortable with, it might be worth pressing him a little—you could get a positive result.
Adding this after reading Mac’s answer: I thought it might be a prelude to increasing how often you meet. Depending on the man, your allowance might go up as well.
That said, now that you mention it, you wouldn’t usually invite someone you only see once a month on a trip. He does seem like the type of man who has things in the reverse order from me.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I’ve had a similar experience with a papa (a male supporter). Like the person who asked this question, we met once a month, and after about a year of seeing each other, he may have gotten more comfortable with me, because his attitude became more familiar.
I think that after men meet all kinds of women, they may start to feel that, after seeing what’s out there, this is the woman they really like—or develop genuine affection for her.
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Maybe she responded cautiously and decided to see how things went. After considering her options, she may have realized that you were still the one she preferred.
Women can feel that way too—once they’ve just joined and gone through all their offers, they might think, “Actually, that person was the best after all,” haha.
Marika
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