I’m a female member who recently joined an exclusive dating club.
I met a man once through the club, and we verbally agreed to meet a second time.
The date we discussed is approaching, but I haven’t heard from him.
In this situation, would it be okay for me to contact him first?
Or, from a man’s perspective, does the lack of contact mean he’s no longer interested in continuing things?
I only just registered, so I’m flustered and still can’t tell the difference between what people really mean and what they say on the surface!
I’d love to hear everyone’s opinions.
I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this as well.
There’s a chance they simply forgot, so I think it’s best to check in sooner rather than later.
It seems perfectly fine to contact them about three days before, the day before, and the morning of the meeting.
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I’m Basil, a male member.
If you’ve agreed on a specific date and time, I think you should reach out. Of course, there’s always a chance she’ll ignore you after finding someone better.
But even if she gets bored and drops you, that usually happens after you’ve met a few times. You wouldn’t set a specific date and time with someone who made a bad first impression.
She may simply be busy, or the type who waits until the last minute to confirm plans.
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I’m Hikoki, a male member.
She may be waiting to hear from you about something.
I think it’s perfectly fine to send a quick update about what you’ve been up to—whether you went somewhere or something happened.
If neither of you reaches out, you’ll probably end up contacting each other the day before or the day of.
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I’m Nanaa Ayase ♡
Even if you haven’t heard from him at all, he’ll probably message you the day before to ask, “Are we still good for tomorrow as planned?” But if you’re feeling anxious Σ(ﾟﾛﾟ｣)｣, why not send a confirmation yourself the day before?
“It's hot again today. I’m thinking of having cold noodles for lunch… Are we still good for tomorrow as planned? The temperature difference between morning and evening has been pretty intense, so I hope you don’t catch a cold. I’m looking forward to seeing you (*^^*).”
How does that sound?
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I’m Dai, a male member.
You made a clear agreement, right?
Maybe she simply thinks it’s better not to contact you too often out of consideration for you.
If you’re anxious because she hasn’t reached out, why not contact her yourself?
It’s normal to get in touch when the date is approaching, but everyone has a different idea of when that is.
She may be planning to contact you that morning.
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I’m date◎yume, a male member.
It’s important to get in touch and confirm. Everyone is busy and has their own schedule, after all.
Also, I don’t think you need to worry too much about what people really mean versus what they say. Their actions tell you everything, so you just need to respond accordingly.
Even though it’s a dating club, it’s simply a gathering of ordinary people who are energetic and curious.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think it’s fine to get in touch. Rather than asking outright, you could send a message like, “I’m looking forward to seeing you next week.”
As Seattle mentioned, I also think casual conversation is important. Some people aren’t very active on LINE, so even if her replies are brief, I don’t think you need to worry too much.
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I’m in Seattle.
I think it’s fine to reach out. You could casually chat a little while you’re at it.
If you just wait, you probably won’t hear anything until the day before.
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