I’m Dai, a male member.
If it’s only a scheduling issue, I may make another offer after leaving a little time in between.
I’d be happy to receive a message saying, “I’d love to hear from you again,” though at the same time, I sometimes wonder if it’s just polite small talk.
I’m Basil, a male member.
I also often make another offer to women who previously turned me down because our schedules didn’t line up. Adding a note like “Please invite me again sometime” would probably make it easier for men to reach out again.
When staff contact the men, they’d only have to copy and paste it, so it shouldn’t be much extra work.
I’ll answer as Maezawa from the president’s office.
Some men do occasionally make a second offer, but usually, by the time they’re considering it, many new women have joined. Their attention shifts to them, so they’re more likely to make an offer to someone else.
Also, if your schedules didn’t match the first time, some men may assume they won’t match the second time either. Others may even think ahead and wonder whether your schedules would continue not to align after starting an arrangement.
That’s why the chances of receiving a second offer are fairly low. If the proposed dates don’t work for you, it’s best to suggest several other available dates anyway, even if you don’t expect much.
They might say, “In that case, how about this date next month?”
> If I ask the staff to tell him, “I’d be happy if you invited me again,” will the male member be informed?
That depends on the staff member.
I’m the type to pass along everything, but some staff don’t relay messages after the arrangement has been set up.
In fact, even during the back-and-forth about an offer, messages are sometimes heavily shortened, which can be pretty surprising.
For example, something like “Let’s enjoy the hot springs that day” might be completely omitted (lol).
> Since this would trouble the staff, could it leave a bad impression on them?
I’m not sure what kind of impression you mean, but it won’t lower your evaluation or affect future offers.
They may simply think, “Her schedule is hard to match.”
But that’s all—it’s just a thought. You’ll still receive offers properly.
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think it depends on the man’s motivation at the time. From what I’ve heard from women I’ve dated, they haven’t received another offer after turning one down because their schedules didn’t line up.
Messages to male members may or may not get through, depending on how busy the staff are at the time. I don’t think it will leave a particularly bad impression as long as you’re not frequently declining because the dates don’t work for you.
