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> If a woman I’m with for the first time was casually willing to go without a condom, I’d actually be put off. I’d think, “Is she a professional?”
The true professionals insist on using condoms. It’s their livelihood, after all, and catching an unnecessary illness could cause trouble for the entire production crew—that’s a serious risk.
On the other hand, at high-end soaplands and the like, going without protection has become increasingly common as a way to stand out from the competition.
These days, partly because of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), the perceived value of sex has fallen considerably.
(There was a time when it was almost free, back when telephone dating services first appeared and the term “援助交際” didn’t yet exist…)
Conversely, if a woman tells you to use a condom, it might give you the impression that she’s a professional.
Writing that would probably cause quite a backlash, though.
Men are all different, and women are all different. Since this is anonymous, some people will say all sorts of things, while others may be using it as an outlet because they can’t say them directly in person. And I’m sure some people have had experiences too disturbing to even write about here.
In the end, I agree with the questioner’s view that we should raise the standard.
(The approach may be different, though.)
Somehow, the comments have been awfully lenient lately…
Maezawa here.
> I’m offended that, based on the posts on this message board, people might assume that all Universe members think this way.
You’re absolutely right.
About 90% of the men are gentlemen. They’re genuinely wonderful men.
There are also a few—maybe around 10%—who give women ¥20,000 or ¥30,000 even when they only have dinner together and then part ways. When I hear about men like that, I can’t help thinking they must have a lot of life experience and understand what it means to struggle.
It doesn’t feel like they’re simply spoiling the woman. Rather, you can almost hear the unspoken message:
“Things must be tough. Thank you for having dinner with me. Keep doing your best, and if you ever need help, just let me know.”
There are many men who genuinely see their partners as fellow human beings.
However, those men rarely post on message boards, because they have no reason to.
So, among Universe’s members, there are:
- 80% decent, good men
- 10% exceptionally generous men—those who give ¥20,000–¥30,000 even for dinner only
- And… the remaining 10% are men who receive poor feedback.
There are nearly 5,000 male members, so roughly speaking:
- 4,000 are good people
- 500 are exceptionally good people
- 500 have received poor feedback
I imagine there are only around 10 men who have posted questions on this message board. Even if you dislike those men, I don’t think many people would assume they represent everyone.
After all, nearly 4,500 men hardly post anything at all…
> I’d like you to raise the admission standards for both men and women, especially when it comes to character.
That’s exactly what the new branch is for.
Its standards are still very much based on the ideal, so they may even be too high. You might find yourself thinking, “Isn’t this standard impossible to meet?”
They may be relaxed a little more going forward… perhaps. Even so, I don’t think the fact that they’re considerably higher than Universe’s standards will change.
Applications for the new branch are already being accepted. If you’re interested in a branch with stricter standards, please contact your nearest branch, and a member of the new branch’s staff should get in touch with you.
