How can I tell a man to stop putting his saliva on his fingers before fingering me, without hurting his feelings??
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So many men use saliva as lube that I quickly end up with yeast infections or vaginitis.....
I want them to stop, but they do it so naturally that I never have a chance to say anything.
When and how should I bring it up so that I don’t hurt his pride, but can make sure he actually stops?
Men probably don’t realize how painful this really is.
If any men reading this use saliva as lube on women, I really want you to stop right now...
This is Ayase Nana ♡
It’s chlamydia, not a yeast infection, right?
You’ve already contracted an STI.
Please go to the hospital immediately.
Please don’t spread it to anyone else.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I’ve never used saliva as lubricant.
That said, at least in the case of candidiasis, it seems to me that the questioner’s fatigue and stress may have weakened their immune system and triggered it.
It’s also possible that washing too much with soap—because they consider men’s saliva dirty and are overly particular about cleanliness—may be the cause.
These are symptoms that sex workers who see many different men pay attention to, so I recommend building a relationship where you can respect the man before having sex.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
Candida and vaginitis have nothing to do with saliva.
It’s best to clearly say no to anything you’re uncomfortable with. Before he touches you, say, “It hurts when fingers are put inside me, so I won’t be able to continue.” Most men probably won’t do it after that—their ultimate goal is getting their penis inside, after all (lol).
If he still tries, you can refuse with a little acting and say, “Ow, that hurts.” If he continues anyway, just say, “It’s started hurting, so I can’t do this,” and stop.
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I’m columnist Fuu.
Why not prepare some lube yourself and say, “Fingering hurts, so could you use lube instead of saliva?”
In the first place, I never use saliva at all.
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I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
I think it’s best to say, “I don’t feel much inside; the clitoris feels better,” and ask him to stop using his fingers.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
That sounds awful… You may have no choice but to keep telling him, over and over.
When you do, try making yourself the subject—for example, “When this happens, I feel hurt, so I’d like you to stop.” That tends to convey how seriously it’s affecting you.
On the other hand, if you make him the subject and say, “You need to stop doing this,” he’s more likely to get defensive. It sounds like a command, after all.
I know it’s hard, but don’t give up. You’ve got this.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well.
Are there really that many impatient men?
If they take their time with foreplay, you’ll naturally get wet, so I don’t think saliva is necessary.
Maybe they do it because they’re impatient and want you to get wet right away.
It may be difficult to say it without hurting his feelings, but honestly, most people probably wouldn’t be hurt if you told them directly.
You could simply say:
“I like being gently caressed for a while until I get wet, so I’d rather you not use saliva. Please take your time and keep caressing me until I’m properly ready.”
That should be fine.
That said, judging from this, does that mean you don’t like oral either?
If it’s gotten to that point…
Maybe papa-katsu just isn’t for you.
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