Even if the man has no idea what went wrong, there are times when a woman has been putting up with things until she reaches her limit and decides, “That’s it—I can’t see him anymore.”
If someone has blocked you, you normally wouldn’t try to contact them even if there were a way to do so, right? It would only make you seem twice as annoying, and there’s absolutely no chance of getting back together.
Marika
By the way, the person I ended things with in this way wasn’t because of the allowance.
This is Ayase Nana ♡
As for why you were blocked, it was probably because your allowance was too low, you lacked basic cleanliness, you had unusual preferences, came across as too condescending, or treated staff rudely. If any of those applied, she probably decided to block you.
But there are also women who may be okay with you, so please try making another offer.
You definitely shouldn’t expect the staff to mediate between you.
Maezawa from the President’s Office here as well.
> Would it be best to accept that we simply weren’t meant to be?
Saying you “weren’t meant to be” sounds nice, but the truth is that there was probably a problem on your end, she had been putting up with it for a long time, and this time she finally reached her limit and blocked you.
As for what went wrong, in more than half of these cases, it’s the allowance.
People say things like, “No, she was happy,” or “The allowance was only 30,000 yen, but she never complained at all.”
But then I have to ask: why did she block you?
Of course, there are women who are fine with 30,000 yen and are still seeing the same person. They don’t suddenly block him and disappear, either. There are various factors, including the man’s appeal, and if both people are satisfied with the arrangement, it’s not anyone else’s place to comment.
But if she suddenly cuts off contact and you have no idea why, you need to realize that your allowance may have been far too low.
She simply doesn’t want to continue seeing you under those terms.
You need to properly acknowledge that.
Of course, it could also be that she disliked your preferences, that you spoke rudely to staff at a restaurant, or that you lacked basic cleanliness and grooming.
There may be other reasons, but first, reassess whether your allowance was too low. Only if you can honestly say that you were offering more than most other men should you start looking into other possible causes.
First, check whether your allowance was low.
Comparing it with dating apps doesn’t count. You need to properly confirm whether that allowance is acceptable within a dating club.
Of course, if you have no intention of offering more, or it would be difficult for you to pay more, you should consider it inevitable that she may suddenly stop responding.
Everyone has their own way of doing things.
Just be careful not to receive negative feedback from the women.
> If I ask the staff, would they support me in getting connected with her again?
Even if we supported you, the outcome is obvious.
If you were willing to pay 200,000 yen just to talk to her one more time, I might consider arranging a three-way meeting between you, the woman, and a staff member for 200,000 yen on a success-fee basis, plus actual expenses.
(I’m not sure whether the president would approve it, though.)
Even then, if the woman absolutely refuses, there’s nothing we can do.
