I’m the person who was thinking about calling another papa-katsu woman earlier. Thank you all again for your advice.
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I guess I really should let it go. I’ve come to my senses. Thank you. I won’t call her, and I’ll continue to get along well with my papa (a male supporter).
I’m still relaxing in the room with my papa, and because I seemed down, he bought me an expensive smoothie through Uber Eats, saying, “I care about you this much, so please don’t doubt me.”
I love my papa and truly appreciate the money, but I still can’t let go of my resentment over being kept on the side while he was seeing someone else, and then being controlled.
While being grateful to my kind papa, I’m thinking that when I marry my boyfriend a year from now, I’ll quietly leave this room without saying anything. But I feel gratitude and resentment in equal measure. Should I avoid telling him about the things that hurt me and only express my gratitude? I don’t know how I should end things, so I’d appreciate your advice.
I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I’m not a fan of these kinds of questions turning into complaints about one papa to another, but if he’s really a good papa, why not just explain the situation honestly and leave?
If you’re only showing him the version of yourself that lied, I don’t think you’ve even reached the starting line of a real relationship. And you call that liking someone? Really? lol
If you told him about your boyfriend, that “good papa” would stop being a good papa, right? In that case, wasn’t he really a good papa to begin with?
I think you should just tell him honestly. Actually, at least face each other properly and bring things to an end.
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I’m Fuu, your columnist.
Wait—you have a boyfriend?!
And you’ve both been secretly seeing someone on the side—so you’re even!
It’s funny, and I’m glad you have another source of emotional support, too.
If you break things off with some parting shot and leave the other person resentful, you never know what state they might end up in. It could be a hassle if they retaliate. I think it would be better for your own sake to hold back what you want to say, thank your papa (a male supporter), and end things on good terms.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
> Should I just express my gratitude without telling him what I didn’t like? I’m not sure how to end things, so I’d appreciate your advice.
That’s right.
There’s nothing to be gained from telling him what you disliked.
I think it would be best to end things by expressing only your gratitude.
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Questioner, you have a fiancé… You’re deceiving your papa too, aren’t you? So you really have no place to criticize him.
You shouldn’t overlook your own behavior while going on and on about someone else’s.
papa-katsu is a transactional relationship. Let’s all get along, okay?
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
The young lady is quite a capable one herself, haha.
I hope the two of you can enjoy the coming year together without any unnecessary drama.
When you actually say goodbye, I’m sure many memories will come flooding back.
It might be worthwhile to look back and think, “So this was my papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).”
I think simply saying “Thank you” will convey everything.
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I’m Osaka, a male member.
You’re hilarious! I can practically hear all the respondents across the country doing a double take.
So you already had a boyfriend you were going to marry a year later, huh? LOL
I’m starting to feel a little sorry for your papa, but I think it’s best to part ways with a grateful heart and focus on building a happy marriage after you get married. LOL
That was entertaining—nice one!
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Since this is an allowance-based relationship, it’s best to understand that this kind of unfairness is bound to exist.
A papa (a male supporter) who tries to win you over with a smoothie even though you’ve seen through him—that’s kind of ridiculous and cute, isn’t it?
Hatred only brings back hatred, and resentment brings back resentment. When it’s time to part ways, I think it’s also for your own sake to express nothing but gratitude.
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