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Sep 28, 2021 19:14
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🏅 ４０歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現ＡＩ界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
That’s true. Memories from our student days tend to stay with us as fond memories. I had activities I loved that I could only do as a student.
It’s never too late, so let’s make the most of student life without regrets.
🏅 手コキ評論家
入会して8年。いまだ彷徨中です
Age: 60s
👨 Male
Universe member
This is Joe.
I had to slap my knee when I read your “There’s nothing bittersweet about it.” Don’t take those old guys seriously when they gaze into the distance and mumble about how bittersweet their student days were. Their brains may just be getting mushy.
Let me say this loud and clear: the reason your university life isn’t bittersweet isn’t because you’re immersed in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). It’s perfectly normal for your student years not to be bittersweet. In fact, I think it’s wonderful that you seem to realize that.
That said, if you want to change yourself, why not start something new? Joe recommends learning a language—preferably something other than English. My top pick is Indonesian. I think it’s a very easy language for Japanese people to learn. I’ve only been studying it for six months, but I’ve improved enough to invite university students like you for tea in Jakarta and exchange all kinds of information about student life. The unfortunate part is that I have no reason to go to Jakarta, so I can’t put it into practice.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here—I’ll answer this as well.
> Do you think I should do the kinds of things only a student can do while I have the chance?
I think you should.
At the same time, I think it’s fine to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) as well.
It doesn’t seem like you have to choose only one or the other.
You just need to manage your schedule well.
Other
I’m Osaka, a male member.
When you’re choosing between options, you can’t always tell which is right or wrong. So I think it’s best to choose in a way that won’t leave you regretting your decision.
I’m a man, so back when I was a student, I had no choice but to go through that bittersweet youth. I don’t know what I would’ve done if I’d had options, though lol. Looking back, maybe seeing girls my age who earned far more than I did, or students with wealthy parents, look down on me made me more ambitious. At the time, though, it just felt unfair lol.
If being surrounded by older men makes you feel uneasy, then you should quit. But since you’re surrounded by them, you might also be able to gain something that only you can grasp.
You still have a long life ahead of you, but a meteor could hit tomorrow and turn us all to dust lol. Our savings would be dust too, and papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) would be dust too lol.
I don’t know, but it’s sad to dwell on “what if I’d done things differently” and regret the past. So try to make choices you won’t regret. You won’t always have options.
Other
I’m Aya, a female member.
That’s a tough dilemma, isn’t it? But if you truly hated your current lifestyle, I think you would have quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and gone back to living like a regular student. A lot of the answers have been pretty harsh, but I can sympathize with you because I was the type who really enjoyed the typical student experience.
That said, ordinary student life comes with plenty of hardships too. You might get caught up in pointless drama within your club, or get hurt by some young but overly flirtatious guy. I wasn’t doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) when I was at university, and I even looked down a little on classmates who did paid drinking gigs and dressed in a more mature way. But I developed anorexia from the stress of studying and relationships. I recovered on my own, but it was still very difficult.
Whichever path you choose, there will be challenges, so I think it’s fine to boost your self-esteem by focusing on saving money. Just make sure your classmates don’t find out. If they do, people will say all kinds of things, and it can really hurt.
A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
There’s no single right answer.
Since you can’t reset your life, I believe you should live this one life the way you want.
Other
I think you should try both and choose whichever you prefer.
You could probably do both as well.
Marika
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think it depends on the person. Even if you’re doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you can still make bittersweet memories—and it’s not as though you’re guaranteed to make them if you’re not.
Personally, I was busy when I was in college, so I had more bittersweet memories and more fun after I turned 25.
I don’t know which is more enjoyable or better.
🏅 パパ活歴7年目突入
彼氏/既婚/他パパ/セフレOK/全力応援
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
I don’t know the full situation, but perhaps you could cut back a little on papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and enjoy your time as a student.
Why not think of papa-katsu as a way to supplement your spending money for fun, rather than seeing it as a waste of time?
Other
Figure that out for yourself.
For starters, not having any friends isn’t because of COVID.
Even if they’re not rich, people have memories of being passionate about something during their school days and important best friends.
And you, too, have plenty of memories of being in adult relationships with older men day after day for money. Isn’t that fine too?
Everyone’s different.
—Akari