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Sep 27, 2021 01:35
7 answers
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Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Fuu, a columnist.
I don’t know my regular supporter’s last name—only his first name, which I know from LINE. We’ve been seeing each other for a year and a half.
I’ve told him my real name. It’s a hassle to use our club names when meeting at restaurants.
We know roughly where each other works and lives so we can decide where to go on dates.
Other than that, we don’t share or ask about each other’s personal information. That arrangement works perfectly well for us.
Other
I’m Osaka, a male member.
This is really a matter of personal taste, isn’t it? Since you felt it was worth posting here, I’m guessing it’s important to you.
Some women say, “You chose to introduce yourself without asking. I didn’t introduce myself.” But having one person use their real name while the other uses a fake name does seem a little foolish.
I can understand wanting the other person to pick up on that, and that you’re judging their sense of tact.
The real issue may actually be hidden in details like this. Relationships where the two people’s sensibilities click really do tend to last.
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お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here with an answer as well.
I assume you gave the woman your real name without her asking for it.
In that case, I think it’s perfectly normal for her not to tell you hers.
You can build a monthly arrangement without knowing each other’s real names.
After all, there are cases where a man becomes a stalker after the relationship ends, so I’d actually be more concerned about a woman who readily gives out her real name.
Other
Why are you so hung up on that?
After all, this is a relationship through a dating club, right?
Whether she feels comfortable sharing that information is something that will become clear in time.
Akari
Other
I’m Taro, a male member.
Ultimately, it’s up to you, isn’t it? If you can accept that, I think you could build a monthly arrangement with her. I believe it’s important to let the woman set the pace and do what she’s comfortable with.
That said, I do understand why you find women who tell you their real names endearing. When you’re trying to build a genuine relationship, there are women who introduce themselves by their real names—maybe about 10%, in my experience. They seem sincere, and it makes you want to value the connection.
But that doesn’t mean women who don’t do that are completely untrustworthy. Everyone has their own reasons and circumstances, so keeping an open mind will probably give you more opportunities to meet someone.
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会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
There’s no need to tell each other your real names, and there’s no need to ask, either. Even if you do ask—or tell them yours—there’s no guarantee it’s really their name. I think it’s something you naturally come to learn when the opportunity arises.
If my LINE name weren’t my real name, I’d probably use my club name and keep my occupation vague at first.
Most of the women I’ve met also use their real names on LINE, while those who used just one character were using their club names. I continued seeing both types, but you do feel more emotionally invested with the former, don’t you? And when one of them happily showed me, before anything else, a certificate or license bearing her real name, it was a little gratifying to realize that her real name really was genuine. Each time, it gives you another reason to celebrate with her…
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think you can build a monthly arrangement without knowing each other’s real names.
That odd fixation is something you should probably let go of. You don’t need someone’s real name to have a relationship, do you?