I feel like I keep meeting men who aren’t good at escorting their dates…
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For the meeting arranged through the service, they suggest meeting at a chain restaurant, or at a place that isn’t a chain but is stylish yet noisy, like a busy bar…
Could this really be because of the impression my profile gives off?
I’m in my 20s, but people sometimes tell me I seem “innocent” or that I look like I was probably in a more artsy, low-key club back in school. At least, I don’t think I give off the kind of vibe you’d see in Minato Ward. Could that be the reason?
I honestly wish I’d been born with more of a model-like face… If I looked more like Nanao, people who aren’t good at escorting their dates wouldn’t approach me, right?
By the way, like Papuwa, I’m also based at a regional branch. It’s starting to get me down—I wonder if it’s just difficult to meet the kind of men I’m looking for in the countryside.
I’m Dai, a male member.
I don’t often make offers to women who look like they’d be from Minato Ward. If anything, I’m more likely to approach innocent-looking women who were in arts or culture clubs at school.
That said, I never take them to chain restaurants on a date.
I feel that’s simply a matter of courtesy…
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There are some wonderful hotels and restaurants outside the major cities, too.
A male member I know told me he holds dinner gatherings at the Westin Sendai.
I’d say it’s one of the better Westin hotels.
It would be nice to have a dinner gathering somewhere outside the big cities… haha.
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Given your looks, being in your twenties, and your youthful charm, you probably appeal to a lot of papas (male supporters). Someone with a Nanao-esque look seems strong-willed, which would be a bit much for me.
Even at a stylish bar, you’d want the first meeting to be at least semi-private—ideally in a private room, right?
Hopefully, once COVID settles down and the business travelers start moving around again, a papa who can escort you will reach out with an offer.
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I’d say about 60% are just average Japanese men who aren’t particularly good at escorting, 10% are poorly organized enough to make you feel anxious and frustrated, 20% are smooth and know how to treat you well, and 10% are so experienced that they come across as players.
The restaurant doesn’t have to be ultra-luxurious, but I’d at least like a private, relaxed space—something like a semi-private room—where we can talk comfortably. Especially when there’s a significant age gap and it’s the first meeting, you need to discuss the terms of the arrangement.
I also wish papas outside the major cities would keep these things in mind for the sake of their cute PJ partners.
Marika
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
I went to a stylish bar in Ebisu the other day, and it was packed with handsome guys, beautiful girls, and attractive foreigners. It was pretty lively, lol.
When you start papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you may find yourself longing for sophisticated, quiet restaurants with a mature atmosphere and going only to places like that—but before you know it, you’ll start to look old yourself. Seriously.
Lately, I’ve been getting bored of always choosing those kinds of places for dates, trying to be considerate, so I’ve started going out and having fun in all sorts of different ways. I can’t say what exactly, though, because it would give away my identity.
I think it’s unavoidable to book a private room for the first meeting, so I do make those reservations—but honestly, it’s actually pretty stressful.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
I used to meet once a month in Tokyo with a papa (a male supporter) who lived in a prefecture in the Tohoku region. We never once went to a chain restaurant with him, but I do feel that his ideal type in women was the opposite of the Nanao kind of look.
It’s complicated…
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