I’m gradually starting to feel empty as the money from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) keeps piling up.
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Even if I continue making money, I’ll never earn enough to cover my lifetime income, nor am I gaining any skills that directly lead to making money. I can no longer set a financial target.
If you have any goals related to papa-katsu besides money, I’d love to hear them.
I’d also appreciate hearing from male respondents if you know of any girls who have goals like this—not just from women.
I’m Saito♪, a column writer.
I’m going to get a little more personal, but I believe the way you use money is everything in life.
Saving is important too, but that only gets you 30 points.
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I’m Shingo Lee, a columnist.
Money is a means to the end of becoming happy. Yet people often end up making “saving money” the goal itself.
You could replace papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with working at a convenience store. Whether it’s papa-katsu or working at a convenience store, what will you actually achieve by saving up a target amount?
What really matters is what you plan to do after reaching that target—and in many cases, the process of saving the money matters more than the result itself.
When I earn money, I try to make sure the process becomes material for a good story, or even content that I could eventually sell.
I think we should rethink our attitude toward money.
I once met a young woman while picking her up. She had only graduated from high school and was earning ¥120,000 a month from a part-time job. I gave her the following advice, and she now lives a happier life than she did back then:
- Find a dream.
- Earn money while practicing toward making that dream a reality.
- Attend a four-year university at the same time.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Sorry, but I don’t really understand how you feel. I already had a job I loved, and I started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) while I was taking a leave of absence from it. After meeting my papa (a male supporter), I returned to work, and now I enjoy both. On top of that, I’m saving money faster than ever, so I have so much to be happy about that I never feel empty…
So I think maybe you could find work you enjoy and set some goals within it. I’m sorry I can’t offer any more specific advice.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
I think most women do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for the money, but if money is your only motivation, you may end up feeling powerless and drained, as you do now.
Build a relationship with the man in front of you—not necessarily a sexual one.
Ask yourself:
Why is this man doing papa-katsu?
What is he looking for in a dating partner?
How did he become able to earn money?
What kind of work does he usually do, and how much time does it take?
What does he think about on a regular basis?
What are his current goals?
What kind of work does he want to pursue in the future?
As you listen to him, I encourage you to think about things like:
Is there anything I could do myself?
How could I become more like the man in front of me?
Is there anything I could learn from him?
Keep reflecting on these questions and applying what you learn, whether during each date or in between dates.
I’m confident your dates will become more enjoyable and that you’ll start seeing changes in your own life as well.
Don’t do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for the money alone. Do it in a way that helps you gain skills and opportunities, so that even after you no longer have a papa (a male supporter), money will continue to come your way.
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I’m in Seattle.
I see—so making saving money the only goal isn’t the way to go. You spend 10% on things you enjoy.
I’m just enjoying my second life now, so papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is a hobby for me. I enjoy seeing them find jobs, graduate, get married, have children, and ultimately seeing them off happily.
Thanks to everyone’s support, the pilot is flying. He’s taking a break now because there are fewer flights due to COVID, though.
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I’m Maezawa from the president’s office, and I’ll answer as well.
Rather than feeling empty, I think you may have simply fallen into a rut.
When things go too smoothly for men and they stop getting rejected by women, they sometimes feel like quitting the dating club.
But they come back after a while, so it may be the same sort of thing.
> If you have any goals in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) besides money, I’d like to hear about them.
Could it be that making money your goal is what causes things to go wrong?
Some people gain valuable insights through conversations with their papa (a male supporter), while others build useful connections.
You could make those your goals, or use the money as seed capital to create something that can support you for the rest of your life, such as a shop or a company.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
Are you thinking about making a living solely through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
You need to think of papa-katsu as support, at most. Otherwise, when it becomes difficult to continue, you may find yourself with nothing.
If you don’t have anything in particular you want to do, one option is to build up a substantial amount of capital and invest it, or otherwise save enough to cover your lifetime earnings in preparation for the day you can no longer do papa-katsu.
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I’m Kamihikōki, a male member.
Work a regular job, graduate from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), and enjoy life while being supported by one papa (a male supporter).
First of all:
Get a steady job.
Find a wonderful papa and graduate from papa-katsu.
Just as you job-hunt or look for a spouse, you should actively look for a good papa.
If money becomes the goal, papa-katsu itself can end up becoming the objective—just like job hunting or spouse hunting can become goals in themselves. You may get stuck in a cycle where you keep searching forever without ever finding a job or getting married.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
That kind of thing has to come from within you naturally. Even if you set goals by copying other people, you’ll just end up feeling empty again.
Maybe it’s time to call it quits?
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Isn’t there anything you’d like to do?
A friend of mine went from working in an office to becoming a nail artist and opened her own salon. Someone I met the other day had changed careers from nursing to working as an esthetician.
I think you could probably get your real estate broker certification by taking a short course or going to a prep school for a little while.
Seattle, weren’t you supporting an aspiring pilot?
Being part of the club made me want to start my own dating club.
I won’t, though (lol).
Marika
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