I have a question about how to set travel dates with my long-distance papa (a male supporter), whom I’ve been seeing for a long time.
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I’ve gone on trips with him two or three times.
Until now, since we live far apart, we’ve arranged to meet on dates when I already had errands or plans in his area, or when he came to my area on a business trip.
However, because of the state of emergency, neither of us has been able to travel much, and we haven’t seen each other in about a month.
A week ago, after a month of no LINE messages, he texted, “I want to go on a trip.” I replied, “I’m free anytime, so invite me!”
Would it be better for me to bring up specific dates in October now?
Would he find that annoying?
I’m in Seattle.
The state of emergency will probably be lifted at the end of September. We should start making plans for October soon.
If it’s a papa you only see occasionally, you should probably reach out soon, or things may fizzle out.
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I’m a male member, “Kamihikōki.”
> After not hearing from him on LINE for a month, he messaged, “I’d like to go on a trip,” so I replied, “I’m free anytime, so invite me!”
If he genuinely wants to travel, I think he’ll soon ask you something like, “When can you go?”
If he doesn’t reply with something like “Yay!” or “Let’s go,” or even send a sticker, I’d keep it to a casual invitation at most. As long as you don’t overdo it, I don’t think he’ll take it too badly.
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I’m Tetsu, a male member.
Personally, I’d be happier if she suggested some specific dates. It makes planning easier, and I’d feel like she was genuinely interested too.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here, answering as well.
I don’t think it would come across as annoying, but if the men have always been the ones deciding, it may be safest to stick to the same approach.
I’m not sure how you’ve handled this before, but if it was something like:
“I’d love to go on a trip. I’m free on the ○th, ○th, and ○th.”
then I think it’s fine to send them your available dates.
However, if you’ve always waited for the men to ask before answering, it might be safer to continue doing that.
That said, if you haven’t been able to meet for a month, I don’t think there’s any problem with letting him know which dates work for you.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I don’t find it annoying or anything, but please invite me with the understanding that sometimes our schedules just won’t line up.
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