They’re all so selfish. There’s no consideration or compassion at all.
Some people take advantage of your romantic feelings and expect you to be intimate with them for a low allowance, while others—
like Make-Otoko-san—
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“I’m the only papa she has, and she hasn’t even gotten a boyfriend. She’s giving me all of her youth—her absolute prime. So I believe it’s only natural, as her papa, to prepare for the time when she’s over 50 and I’ve passed away.”
I want to be with someone who thinks this way.
That’s my biggest concern.
In my case, he’s only taking advantage of my romantic feelings, and I don’t feel loved by him at all. I’m gradually starting to feel like he’s only pretending to love me. I feel like nothing more than a human fleshlight.
I’ve been living in the apartment he gave me for several years now. My papa comes over whenever he feels like it.
But when I really think about it, the value of an apartment only goes down as the years pass, right? What happens when I turn 50…?
I haven’t found another boyfriend or papa. Actually, I can’t. I’m in my 20s.
I’m starting to feel anxious. Do I need to find someone else…? If he finds out, do you think he’ll kill me?
I’m BB7.
Your anxiety isn’t going to disappear.
Whether you have 100 million yen or 200 million yen, you can’t even know if you’ll still be alive at 50.
Instead of wasting time worrying about the future, become independent enough to earn your own money.
You feel anxious because you’ve built your whole life around depending on your papa (a male supporter).
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I’m Aya, a female member.
If you put all the money you earn through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) into investments, it will steadily grow.
The period when you can earn through papa-katsu isn’t that long, so don’t give up the job you already had. If you put everything you earn into index funds, you can quickly build up tens of millions of yen. If your papa (a male supporter) has enough assets to buy you a condo, his monthly allowance must be quite substantial too. You were saving money, right? Google “index investing compound interest.”
Everyone’s situation is different, but I’m at the point where, in a few more years, I’ll have built enough assets to live without working much at all. That said, I like working, so I’d like to continue my daytime job for as long as possible.
I know someone who earned a lot solely through the sex industry and papa-katsu, but spent all of it every month. Once she turned 30 and gradually found it harder to earn, she moved to Okinawa because the cost of living is lower. While she was out having fun, I ate modest meals, avoided luxuries, and devoted myself to saving and investing. I think the reason people feel anxious is that they aren’t taking action.
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here as well.
> Come to think of it, the value of the apartment I received is only going to decline over the years. What will happen when I turn 50…?
If you were given the apartment, that’s an incredible situation. Is it registered in your name?
If so, why not try buying another apartment? If you use your current apartment as collateral, you may be able to buy at least one used apartment. You could take out a loan for whatever amount is lacking.
That way, you can learn through experience how to generate rental income. Things may not go smoothly, and it could be difficult, but you’ll still learn a lot. If it works out, you may even be able to keep increasing the number of apartments you own.
Also, even if an apartment’s value declines, there are plenty of people who want to live somewhere as long as the location is good—within a three-minute walk of a station, for example.
You may worry about its value if you plan to sell it, but if you think of renting it out, I feel it could easily remain viable for around 60 years.
> I’m starting to feel anxious. Do I need to find someone else…?
I think finding someone else would be a good way to ease your anxiety. However, it could cause serious problems if you’re found out, so I think you should take proper precautions.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Generally, what you receive from a papa (a male supporter) is money for the immediate future. To be offered a parting payment or something to help prepare for the future, you need to have developed that kind of relationship first.
Rather than simply meeting a papa like that, you need to build that kind of relationship with him. If you feel like you’re just selling off your youth and being used one-sidedly, it will be difficult to form such a relationship.
To put it more simply, if the person asking the question only thinks of herself, the papa will only think of himself too. Generally speaking, gratitude is often met with gratitude in return.
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I’m columnist Shingo Lee (Shingori).
Aren’t you actually the most self-centered and inconsiderate person here?
You don’t seem to have a brain, so you’re basically a fleshlight. Like a fleshlight, let people use you for masturbation until you’re worn out and thrown away.
You have the advantage of owning an apartment, unlike most people, so why doesn’t it occur to you to improve your own abilities? For an average person earning 200,000 yen a month, 50,000 or 60,000 yen goes toward rent. You could use that money to take classes or invest in a small business.
You’re disguising your financial dependence by replacing it with psychological dependence—in other words, romantic feelings.
A woman who does nothing but dream of being supported by others won’t even have value as a fleshlight once she loses her youth. Study hard while you’re in your twenties. Get a boyfriend.
This is just speculation, but that apartment isn’t in your name, is it? It sounds like they’re already tired of you, so you might be kicked out of there before long.
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I’m the “loser guy” among the male members.
I’m truly sorry—I seem to have made you feel even more anxious instead.
At the very least, she should have a boyfriend. I actually encourage my ace girl to get one.
The only thing that would be wrong (though I haven’t told her it’s wrong) is for her to have another papa.
She could even marry her boyfriend, for all I care. I wouldn’t make a move on her while they’re together, but I’d keep steadily saving money for her.
I’ve even told her, “Come back to me if you ever become a single mother.”
I believe I must never interfere with any part of my ace girl’s life.
All I can do is continue loving her.
Usually I’m her papa, but sometimes I scold her like a father, and on the very rare occasion, she lets me be her boyfriend. I don’t act like I’m her boyfriend, though. I’d never even walk around town with her.
That’s more or less how things are.
My ace girl just won’t get a boyfriend, no matter what I say. Even when I tell her to, she refuses. She shows me her phone, and even her GPS, without me ever asking her to.
That’s why I genuinely want to shower her with endless love and leave her my fortune.
In other words, she’s a child of God, too.
Well, GPS can be spoofed, and she might have two phones. That would be nice, though（笑).
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