I believe there was a question during the video shoot asking whether I’m S or M. Would answering “Neither” come across as too unfriendly?
I’m basically not interested in either, and being asked for BDSM play when meeting someone for the first time would be very frightening.
When I registered last time, I wasn’t sure how to answer, so I said, “I might be a little M in the sense that I’m somewhat submissive.” After that, there was someone who slapped my butt without my permission and wouldn’t stop even when I asked them to.
Since I’m re-registering, I probably won’t be seen as inexperienced, but I’m also wondering whether it would be inappropriate to mention in the comments anything about the adult relationship I had with someone I dated, even if it was only once. Would people take issue with that?
There are all kinds of men registered, so I want to eliminate the possibility of getting caught up in anything violent.
Is there a tactful way to answer?
FS3’s Yuyu Wu here as well.
> Since all kinds of men are registered, I want to eliminate the possibility of getting involved in a violent situation.
If you let us know this during your interview, we can note on your profile that “SM and extreme activities are not allowed.”
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here as well.
> Is answering “Neither” too unfriendly?
Not at all.
Usually, the answer is neither, but...
It’s a shame that option isn’t available.
Incidentally, if you answer “Neither,” they’ll probably ask something like, “If you had to choose, which would you say you’re closer to?”
At that point, pretend to think about it for a moment, then say something like, “Actually, neither. I’d say I’m pretty average.” I think that would be a good way to answer.
They may also ask, “Do you like intimacy?”
(It depends on the staff member.)
If you answer, “I enjoy adult relationships, and I also like oral,” there may be men who are drawn to that and make you an offer.
However, if you say it when it isn’t true, the arrangement will become difficult, so this only applies if you genuinely enjoy it.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
Even if a woman says, “I’m neither dominant nor submissive—I’m just normal,” I think some men would still slap her butt.
What do you think about telling him in advance that I have trauma from men who hit me during dinner dates or while we’re intimate?
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
Before filming, try showing this question to the club staff and asking them not to ask whether you’re S or M.
There are also videos where they don’t ask, and some women don’t list it on their profiles.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
“I might be a little submissive in that sense, but I absolutely don’t like anything painful, dirty, or uncomfortable.”
How does that sound?
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