I'm thinking of cutting ties with my papa after the trip. Next month is my birthday, and I'm going on a trip, but I have my national exam on the second day. I only realized this after the travel plans had been finalized, but since everything had already been booked, I ended up arranging to take the exam at the travel destination. I know it's my fault for not checking the dates properly, but at this point, my motivation to go on the trip is extremely low. I'd rather skip the trip and study. However, the man went out of his way to book a nice hotel and tickets to a play for me, so I feel like I can't cancel. It's a national exam that's held only once a year, yet I'm starting to feel ridiculous about taking it while traveling with an older man I don't even like. The day before the exam, the schedule is packed with travel plans, so I won't be able to study either...
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Once I started feeling that way, I began to dislike him too. I'm getting angry thinking about how he once made me spend an entire day on a date for an allowance of just 10,000 yen, and how he reduced the allowance every time we had an adult relationship (three times in total).
Honestly, I feel like I want to cut ties right now without even going on the trip, but since I arranged to take the national exam at the destination, I have no choice but to go. Still, I can't shake the feeling that I don't want to go, and I really can't get motivated anymore. This will be my second trip with him; the first was a two-day, one-night trip for 150,000 yen. I don't know what the allowance will be this time. Would it be rude to ask, since I need something to motivate me? At this point, all I feel is that I really don't want to go. I want to take the national exam fully prepared. (T^T)
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here—I’ll answer as well.
I believe trips can be canceled without a fee up to 30 days in advance, so it seems like all you need to do is ask them to move the dates until after your exam.
Even if it’s already within the 30-day window, there are still more than 20 days left if the trip is next month, so I doubt the cancellation fee would be that significant.
More importantly, what kind of national exam can you take while traveling? Are there national exams that can be taken remotely because of COVID? What an incredible time we live in...
In any case, they really need to change the dates.
I think it would be best to tell them firmly.
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I’m in Seattle.
So the person who lost their phone wasn’t actually strange after all. That’s a relief.
Making reservations can be a hassle, so I’m not a fan of last-minute cancellations. If you’re going to cancel, you should pay the cancellation fee yourself.
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National exams aren’t something you can cram for overnight, so there’s no problem with taking a trip the day before—as long as you’ve studied beforehand.
It’s unfair to blame your papa (a male supporter) for the fact that you hadn’t studied up to that point.
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I’m Ayase Nana ♡
Your papa (a male supporter) should understand that your national exam is more important than the trip, so contact him right away.
With the state of emergency, many places aren’t charging cancellation fees, so get in touch with him now. If you fail the exam, your papa will probably feel terrible too.
Besides, cramming the day before the exam is already too late, right? Mine is on the 11th and 12th, but I went shopping for clothes with my papa today. I’m worried about you.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
Take control of your own life.
In the end, no one else will take responsibility for the consequences. Only you will.
Even when something bad happens to you, it’s someone else’s problem as far as other people are concerned.
Even if someone else caused it, you’re the one responsible for the outcome.
So if you fail the national exam, it’s not that old guy’s fault. You’re 100% to blame.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
If you’ve lost interest, I think it’s best to tell him as soon as possible.
If I were in his position, I wouldn’t enjoy going on a trip if the woman wasn’t having a good time either.
If you tell him while cancellation is still possible, you don’t need to feel responsible.
That said, next time, please wait until you’ve gotten to know each other better before agreeing to a trip.
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