Do guys really want to hear that they’re “big” that badly?
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During intimacy, a guy who seemed to be around an M size—since he fit a standard love hotel condom—asked me, “Is it big? Hey, is it big?” I almost laughed. I did answer, “It’s big♡” though, lol.
I can understand it if he were an L or LL size, but why would he ask when the objective evidence suggests he’s average?
Is there something appealing about the word “big” itself?
Or did my lack of tightness make him feel insecure?
I’m Dāko, a female member.
He seems like the type who gets excited and feels uplifted when told he’s big, so for both his sake and your own, I think you should say the things he wants to hear.
I don’t think you need to worry about being too loose.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
That’s a pretty straightforward request. They’ll be happy if you simply say exactly what they asked for.
I have to admit, though, I’ve thought it might be nice to hear someone say, at least once in my life: “It’s so big! You’re going so deep! I’m losing my mind! Don’t thrust with something that big!”
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I’m Dai, a male member.
Don’t hold back when it comes to saying the things they seem to want to hear.
By the way, I’m fully aware I’m not well-endowed, so I wasn’t asking you to tell me it’s “hard”...CHANTABILITY
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It’s probably a personal insecurity. By having you tell him he’s “big,” he may be looking for reassurance.
You’re wonderful for holding back your laughter, smiling, and giving him the response he hopes for. I hope your relationship continues for a long time.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
There must be some guys who get excited when they’re told they’re big. Think of it as being similar to women wanting to have bigger breasts or wanting to be told they’re slim. To the opposite sex, though, it’s often one of those things that isn’t quite as impressive as they think.
If it doesn’t bother you and the questioner is okay with it, try telling him, “It’s big and feels good.” It’ll make him happy.
In my case, it’s not something I’m bragging about—I’m actually too big, and women have sometimes ended things with me because of it. I wish I could do more standing from behind and really go at it, but that wish isn’t fulfilled at the club. Sometimes I think it would’ve been better to be average-sized. Balance really is important in everything, don’t you think?
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer this too.
> Why would he ask when it had objectively been established that it was average-sized?
For men, if they have a lot of male friends who go to adult-entertainment venues together, they may have some idea of what’s average.
But normally, you don’t really know the objective size.
Sometimes, the person next to you may glance over at you in the restroom. If someone compares themselves that way, they might get a sense of the objective size—but I don’t think many people actually peek at the person next to them. And even if they compare sizes when not aroused, I’m not sure how meaningful that would be.
So perhaps they end up asking a woman. But women probably wouldn’t feel comfortable telling the truth either, so in the end, they still wouldn’t know the objective size and would have to rely on subjective impressions.
With that in mind, when he says, “Is it big? Come on, is it big?” he may not necessarily be asking to be told that it’s big. He may simply want to know how big it is.
Still, I feel like the truth will ultimately remain unknown.
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I guess he thought bigger ones were more appreciated.
Or rather, he wanted to feel recognized—like he was able to please me.
It reminded me of someone with a tiny little homegrown matsutake mushroom who kept asking, “How is it? Is it big? Is it enough?” over and over.
When I answered, “It’s almost too much,” he seemed delighted and reached the end.
Akari
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I think what he wants you to say is that it’s “big” in a subjective sense, not an objective, measurable sense. In other words, he isn’t looking for your honest assessment—he wants you to think it’s “big.”
Also, I don’t think he was really asking you a question. He was probably saying, “Is it big? Come on, is it big?” because he wanted you to call it “big.”
Basically, he just wants you to say it’s big.
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