I have a question about taking a leave of absence.
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I heard that the first month after registering is crucial, so I’m thinking of registering for just one month, then taking a break to avoid being recognized. Then, after having new photos taken six months later, would it be a problem if I were active for another month in the same way and then took another break?
Also, from the perspective of male members, what do you think about women who do this?
I’m Fuu, a columnist.
If you’re attractive enough to receive offers, I think you could find a few papas within about a month, leave the site, and then re-register if things end with them.
You wouldn’t be inconveniencing anyone, and I don’t think re-registering gives a bad impression either.
Just keep in mind that in reality, around half of the women who register don’t receive any offers.
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This is Nagato from the Omiya staff.
Personally, I think it’s a good idea. I don’t think it would be a burden for the staff, either. However, our current suspension policy allows for a maximum of one month. Anything longer is generally treated as a withdrawal.
Also, as others have mentioned, I feel that the idea that “the first month is crucial” only applies to certain people. There are even very beautiful women who receive zero offers for six months.
We would be delighted if you would apply for an interview.
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Maezawa from the President’s Office here.
> I heard that the first month after registering is the most important.
You have a chance of receiving an offer throughout the entire time you’re registered.
It’s true that most offers come during the first month, but some women continue to receive offers after that as well. Others don’t receive any offers even during their first month.
So I don’t think you should take it too seriously.
> After that, I’d like to suspend my membership to avoid being identified.
Some women do that, so it’s perfectly fine. However, our internal rules recently changed, and if no specific suspension period is set, your account will be treated as withdrawn.
In your case, the period is set as six months, but I think they may still ask, “In that case, would you prefer to withdraw and register again after six months?”
That said, women who have received offers before are almost never rejected when they register again, so there seems to be very little difference between suspending your membership and withdrawing.
However, if you bring this up during the interview, someone who would only just pass may end up being rejected.
I think it would be better to simply attend the interview, get accepted, and then request a suspension after one month.
You may feel that telling them in advance would be more considerate, but there’s no point if the staff become suspicious and reject you. We receive countless requests from women saying they’ve met someone they like and would like to suspend their membership, so it’s not a problem at all.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
You seem like the type who would prefer to stay with one man for a long time.
Whether that strategy works will depend on how many offers you receive during your first month and what kind of feedback you get from the men.
It may be a bit premature to count your chickens, so why not register first and see how it goes?
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I’ve actually seen several people like that. I think it’s best if you receive an offer and are able to start seeing each other.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
That’s the right call.
There are women like that, and among the women I’ve met, there was one with a similar vibe who received a perfect five-star rating.
Rather than continuing to pursue her for over a month, I think it’s wiser to make your move at the beginning—within the first one to three weeks.
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The reason it’s best to make the most of the first month—whether at the start, after new photos are taken, or when someone returns—is that it would be a shame for both sides (and for a club hoping to facilitate good encounters and relationships) if a woman treated the first man she liked as though there would likely be a next time.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
There was recently a question from someone who had heard that if you remain inactive for a month, your membership is treated as terminated. So, if you do as the questioner suggested, I believe it will initially be treated as a withdrawal.
https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/8011
That said, if you’re planning to have your photos retaken, it’s practically no different from re-registering after withdrawing.
From a man’s perspective, if you mention in the comments section for men that you’re doing this to prevent being recognized, I wouldn’t think anything of it. But if you don’t mention it—or if I happened to skip over it—I might assume you were a complicated woman with some quirks.
Also, I don’t think the first month after joining is make-or-break. I agree that the beginning is important in terms of learning how to navigate a dating club, but there are also women who continue receiving offers here and there over a long period of time.
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