Does communicating more often necessarily make people closer?
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What tends to increase in proportion to how frequently you’re in touch?
I imagine it may differ depending on whether the messages are coming from the woman or the man.
Could you explain each case?
I’m Shingo Lee (Shingori), a column writer.
To put it simply, how often you contact someone isn’t directly connected to how close you are.
I think this is being confused with the idea that frequent exposure makes people more likely to develop positive feelings. That only applies when there’s no initial interest; once someone has developed interest, it’s no longer relevant.
In the pickup-artist community, it’s generally accepted that frequent text-based communication can actually damage a relationship. Since nuances don’t come across well in writing and misunderstandings are more likely, the general idea is to keep messaging to a minimum and communicate verbally whenever possible.
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I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
You get closer when you meet frequently, but once you’re close, you don’t really need to stay in constant contact, right? When necessary, you exchange a ton of messages back and forth, but otherwise, you might not message at all until the day you decide to meet. It gradually starts to feel more like the kind of communication you have with family, I guess…
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
What does it even mean to be “close”?
My standards for calling someone “close” are extremely high, so I don’t consider us close in the slightest just because we message each other more often.
So, even when the frequency of our messages increases, the only thing that’s actually increasing is the frequency of our messages.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
It shouldn’t be too frequent!
We’re both busy, and when someone’s busy, too much contact can actually be a nuisance…
Normally, I think once or twice a day is best.
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I’m in Seattle.
I usually match the other person’s pace.
I’m generally free, so I can send as many messages as needed, and if I’m not working, I’ll reply right away. As long as you respond within 24 hours, that’s fine.
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I’m Fuu, a columnist.
When I meet someone, I like things to be passionate in bed, but I keep our messages brief.
When arranging dates, I’ll share a little about what’s been going on, but we contact each other about once a week at most. I figure that’s probably less of a burden for the women, too.
That’s how some of these relationships have continued for three years, or a year, and so on.
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I’m Nana Ayase♡
I’d like to exchange greetings in the morning and before bed〜
Things like, “I like you. Sleep well and have sweet dreams♡”
Or, “You worked hard today. Relax and take it easy at home.”
Would that work? I feel like if we do it too often, things may fizzle out sooner.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
I don’t think it’s really relevant.
Don’t you ever get creeped out when several messages come through in a row on LINE?
For us, a regular email is just about right.
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