I’m a male member who’s picky about all sorts of little things.
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Her face and figure were absolutely my type, and everything else about her seemed like a perfect fit too!
But despite all that, this one issue kept bothering me, so I ended things myself…
Has anyone else had an experience like that?
For reference, looking back, mine was something like this:
① Slow responses (12–18 hours on average)
② She’s never massively late, but is always about five minutes late
③ She does give me a heads-up, but checks her phone in the middle of conversations (about once every 30 minutes)
④ She chews loudly during meals (it gets a little better right after I point it out, but it’s a habit she can’t seem to break)
⑤ Not very sharp (I don’t mean she’s uneducated)
⑥ Sighs a lot
⑦ Her mood swings are intense, and I don’t know what causes them (a mental health issue?)
⑧ Strong body odor (including from her intimate area)
⑨ Bigger than an Oma tuna—an absolute monster
Some of these were deal-breakers on their own, while others only became too much when combined.
I’d love to hear your thoughts, encouragement, and even disappointing stories from those of you with more experience!
I’m Shingo Lee, a columnist.
Ah, I know what you mean.
There are certain deal-breakers that really get to you personally, even though most people probably wouldn’t think they were a big deal. I think everyone has their own particular pet peeves.
Personally, the following ①–⑦ don’t really bother me:
① Slow responses (an average of 12–18 hours) → It’s just a communication tool, after all. As long as making plans isn’t held up, I don’t mind.
② Never extremely late, but always about five minutes late → I do the same sometimes, and as long as they let me know how late they’ll be, I can work on my phone while I wait.
③ Touching their phone during the conversation after giving me a heads-up (about once every 30 minutes) → Doesn’t bother me.
④ Chewing loudly during meals (it gets better right after I point it out, but they can’t fully stop because it’s a habit) → I’m fine with it as long as they eventually work on it.
⑤ Not very quick-witted (I don’t mean uneducated) → Even if they aren’t quick-witted, it’s fine as long as they have other strengths. People should help each other out.
⑥ Sighing a lot → I’d try to help them stop. If it’s just a habit, though, it wouldn’t bother me.
⑦ Extreme mood swings with no clear cause (a mental health issue?) → It doesn’t bother me, but people like this probably don’t make for long-term relationships…
These would bother me quite a bit:
⑧ Strong body odor (including the intimate area) → I don’t mind the intimate area, but odor from the armpits or scalp would bother me.
⑨ Being even more of a dead fish than an Oma tuna → That would mean we’re incompatible, haha. I think being receptive during sex is a talent, so if it doesn’t work even when I put in the effort, I just assume we’re incompatible—or that they lack the talent—and give up.
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I’m Fuu, a columnist.
I’m incredibly lenient with women and can forgive almost anything—except strong body odor and Oma bluefin tuna.
Sighing and mood swings can be tough, sure, but if her thoughtfulness, kindness, looks, figure, and chemistry in bed make up for them, I think we’ll be fine（笑）
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I’m Ayase Nana ♡
During tea time at my batting-cage lesson, I happened to glance over and saw Flag Maker’s “Haaaah~,” and I ended up laughing so hard I was clutching my stomach all by myself. So embarrassing (≧∇≦)
When he got on all fours and his anus was exposed, there were bumps everywhere. After sending a thank-you message on my way home, I blocked him. I even disinfected the inside of my mouth with alcohol. My mouth was burning too (lol).
Good girls, don’t try this at home.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I feel like they broadly fall into three categories:
- It’s okay as long as there are other qualities that make up for it → ①, ②, ③
- No matter how good the other aspects are, I wouldn’t continue → ⑧
- No experience → ④, ⑤, ⑥, ⑦, ⑨
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Here’s how I would classify the things the questioner listed, based on my own experience.
**Experienced—doesn’t bother me:**
① Slow responses (an average of 12–18 hours)
② Never extremely late, but always arrives about five minutes late
③ Uses her phone during the conversation, though she does say excuse me first (about once every 30 minutes)
**Experienced—bothers me:**
⑧ Strong body odor, including intimate areas
A. A discrepancy between the relationship type listed in her profile and the type she tells me about in person
B. Spending the entire time complaining about other men
C. Saying from the first meeting that going without protection is fine
**Never experienced:**
④ Chewing noisily during meals (it gets a little better right after I point it out, but she can’t stop because it’s a habit)
⑤ Lacking common sense—not necessarily lacking education
⑥ Sighing frequently
⑦ Extreme mood swings with no apparent cause (a mental health issue?)
⑨ Being even more unresponsive than a giant tuna
I’ve added my own experiences as A–C.
Maybe things like ④–⑦ happen because men make offers based solely on a woman’s looks and figure.
For ②, being 10 or 15 minutes late is within an acceptable range.
For ③, if a notification comes through on her phone, I’ll ask, “Don’t you need to check that?”
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I once met a cabaret club hostess who reeked of perfume and was on her way to work. We didn’t click at all—neither the conversation nor the energy—and then she said, for some reason in a condescending tone, “I’ve got time before work, so I’m fine with an adult relationship today, even for B.” So I reluctantly went to a hotel with her.
When things got intimate, she suddenly started moaning incredibly loudly: “Haaahhh! Haan!” I managed not to laugh, quickly brought things to an end, and was about to leave when she said, “I still have time before work, so I want to see a movie.”
I ended up watching some random movie she picked. Just as it was finally getting interesting, she said, “It’s almost time for me to go to work!” and abruptly ended the movie. After seeing her off with, “Good luck at work! Take care!” I blocked her immediately.
That’s the only time I’ve ever blocked someone right away without any particular reason.
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I’m Papahikōki, a male member. Yesterday, I went to the hospital with my daughter, wearing an outfit she had picked out for me, and I was mistaken for her older brother. (I was surprised that could happen just because we were wearing masks during COVID.)
Way too small.
Governor Yoshimura once said:
“There’s no end to thinking of reasons why you can’t do something, so think of reasons why you can.”
They say love has always meant loving someone’s flaws, too…
①, ②, ⑥, ⑦, and ⑨ don’t seem to be caused by just one side.
④ and ⑧ can’t really be helped, but wouldn’t ③ be one of the less common issues these days…?
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