I made an offer to a Type B woman who stated upfront that she wanted at least four or five dinner-only dates before progressing to an adult relationship (intimate). As you can probably guess, she stopped responding right after our fifth dinner.

Maezawa from the President’s Office will answer this one as well. > For women who identify as Type B and require “at least four or five dinner-only dates before things develop into an adult relationship (intimate)” I believe women can generally tell at first sight whether they’re interested in taking things further. Of course, there are exceptions to everything, but if you start considering every exception, it becomes impossible to make sense of things. So I think you can make that judgment at the first meeting. That said, I can understand emotionally wanting to start the actual relationship from the second meeting, even if the decision was made at the first. Therefore, if a Type B woman says she requires at least four or five dinner-only dates, I think you should assume it probably won’t develop into an adult relationship (intimate). Basically, the key question is whether she’s willing to have an adult relationship (intimate) by the second meeting. If she absolutely wants one more dinner, then it should happen by the third meeting. Beyond that, you should probably assume it’s not going to happen. > I don’t think I did anything wrong, so I feel like this may have been a case of misrepresenting her dating type. Should I give the club feedback, or should I just let it go? I can’t say whether you did anything wrong or not. (Sometimes there may be issues you simply haven’t noticed.) But if you had dinner with her five times, I think it’s perfectly reasonable to report it as misrepresentation of her dating type—and the staff would probably agree. From the staff’s perspective, up to three dinner dates might be understandable. Four is questionable. By the fifth, they would agree that it was misrepresentation of her dating type. Since you had dinner with this person five times, I think you should feel free to give the club your feedback openly.

I’m date◎yume, a male member. Haha（笑） Sounds like you had quite an experience... For me, it’s been 0 out of 1（笑） I’ve had dinner about ten times. My impression is that she was aiming for that from the very beginning. But I suppose it can’t be helped. If I’d been what you’d call handsome, she probably would’ve been okay with it（笑） As for feedback to the dating club, when I made a new offer through the club, I told them, “It didn’t develop into a relationship.” After that, I gave up on choosing women myself and decided to have the club introduce them to me instead.

I’m a male member, “Paper Airplane.” With Type B, it’s usually just the first or second meeting. If I really like her, it might continue for around five or six meetings. Beyond that, I think it generally ends without progressing to an adult relationship (intimate). Most of the time, I only meet her once and don’t see her again. In the questioner’s case, it sounds like she simply decided after four or five meetings, as she wrote, so I don’t think there’s any particular need to leave feedback. (Personally, I’m actually more or less welcoming of women who don’t stick to their stated dating type.)

I’m Dai, a male member. Most of the women I’ve met through a Type B arrangement who went on to have an adult relationship did so on the second date. Occasionally, I make an offer to women who say it takes four or five dates before things develop into an adult relationship, but unfortunately, it’s never worked out for me. That said, I don’t think five dinner dates without progressing means she misrepresented her relationship type. I simply think she wasn’t ready to have an adult relationship with the person asking the question, even after having dinner together five times.

I’m Saito, a columnist ♪ This may be inappropriate to say, but I love stories like this. I can only imagine how you must feel. I’d love to share a meal and raise a glass together.

I’m in Seattle. I’ve had one person agree after the 15th meeting, while another turned me down at the 10th. It wasn’t necessarily about things progressing—I simply enjoyed having dinner with her. I think you should decide for yourself when to move to a transactional relationship, rather than leaving it up to the woman. After the third meeting, I only continue with people I genuinely enjoy spending time with. I’m still seeing the person who turned me down at the 10th meeting, and we’ve had dinner together 12 times so far.

I’m Flag Maker, a columnist. I once had an arrangement with a B who kept me at dinner-only meetings for five or six dates before things eventually progressed to an adult relationship (intimate). By that point, I’d given up expecting anything and just went along with the dinners. One day, we were having drinks at a nice bar for our second stop, and she seemed to be in a particularly good mood. When we left, I asked, “What do you think about what comes next?” She responded with an “Umm…” kind of hesitation, so I started walking toward a love hotel, guiding her by saying, “Turn right here,” and “Left here.” When we arrived, I said, “This is our destination,” and she laughingly went into the love hotel. Maybe that woman ultimately just wasn’t comfortable with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Eventually, we became regular meal companions with no allowance involved. I think it would be a good idea to report the facts of this incident to the club, just in case.

I’m Kazu, a male member. In cases where I was able to develop an adult relationship with a Type B woman, the longest it ever took was the second meeting. If things don’t progress by the second meeting, I move on. When I meet a Type B woman for the third time or beyond, I go in prepared for it to be dinner only. Personally, I’d find it way too embarrassing to keep reporting something like “dating-type fraud” to the club.