Women often say they’re looking for something “long-term,” but how long is “long-term,” exactly?

I’m Saito, a columnist♪ You’re a man, right? Even the most beautiful woman gets boring after three days… or three dates, in today’s world. But women may well hope to keep receiving a monthly allowance from you. Women: papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) = a kindly benefactor Men: papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) = no different from compensated dating, right? I think it ultimately comes down to everyone’s different circumstances and what suits them. Rather than seeing one woman 100 times, I think many men would actually grow more by meeting 30 women three times each. (I’m sure many people will insist that’s absolutely not true, but allow me to say it anyway!) I hope you eventually meet a woman with whom you keep seeing each other for a fourth time, a fifth time, and before you know it, you’re saying, “Wow, three years have passed!”

Maezawa answers: When someone says it’s long-term, they usually mean they intend to continue indefinitely. That said, naturally, it’s probably more common for things to end before becoming truly long-term because, somewhere along the way, one person decides they can’t keep seeing the other person anymore. When you find yourself thinking, “Why now, after we’ve been seeing each other for six months?” I imagine it’s often because the woman had been putting up with things and continuing the relationship despite her feelings. If things end after around three dates, I tend to think another papa offering a more generous allowance—or someone kinder and more appealing—may have come along. But when it comes to this, I think the members themselves, who have actually gone on many dates, probably understand it best.