Is motivation for being active related to club rank?
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I met a beautiful female college student who, in my view, had the looks of someone at the platinum level and was a B-type. She had no self-harm scars and didn’t seem like she worked in nightlife, so I thought, “The interviewer must have no eye for beauty to rate such a cute girl as standard.” However, after actually meeting her, I realized that her motivation for being active was low, and I came to appreciate that the interviewer really does notice a lot of things.
During the first meeting, she nodded and listened with interest when I spoke, and asked questions in return. However, when I asked her questions, she seemed reluctant to talk much about her private life, so the conversation didn’t really get going. When I asked what allowance she would want if things developed into an adult relationship (intimate), she said she wasn’t sure. Even after I suggested an amount and she agreed to it, she didn’t make much effort to coordinate our schedules. When I emailed her saying that it was difficult to find a date that worked, she replied, “It’s not like I urgently need the money,” which made me feel that her motivation was extremely low. She also apparently isn’t comfortable with intimacy.
Why would a woman with low motivation, no urgent need for money, and no particular interest in intimacy go out of her way to register with a club?
I’m a male member named Dai.
I think your low motivation to participate may have come across in how you responded during the interview.
They may have placed you in the Standard category because they assumed that even if you met a man in person, the conversation wouldn’t flow and you wouldn’t enjoy yourself.
Regardless of their motivation for participating, I feel there are women in Type B who aren’t primarily interested in money or intimacy.
I think they register with the attitude that it would be lucky if they happened to meet a genuinely good man.
I’ve met two or three women like that in the past, and they can be pretty tough to deal with.
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They kept prying into your private life, and you probably couldn’t brush them off with a tactful excuse
(you didn’t really want to tell them the truth, after all).
It’s not about the schedule or the money…
You simply weren’t feeling it.
In the end, it comes down to this:
you just didn’t think, “I like this person…”
Akari
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I’m Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu, and I’ll answer as well.
There’s a chance the woman’s low motivation was because you simply weren’t her type.
As for how women are classified, appearance and figure are the main factors, but if we feel that a woman shouldn’t be introduced to male clients, she may be placed in a lower class.
In this case, though, I don’t think it was so much about her motivation as the conversation not really getting off the ground. That said, I also suspect your attitude may not have been very good.
People with poor attitudes may be placed in a lower class during the interview, or rejected altogether.
So in that sense, factors besides appearance are taken into account.
However, even women who are perfectly good may be placed in a lower class to increase the number of offers they receive, so please don’t misunderstand that point.
> When I emailed her, saying, “It’s been difficult for us to find a date that works,” she replied, “It’s not that I urgently need the money.”
It may sound as though she was blaming you, but the reality is simply that you weren’t her type. If you were, she would have found a date that worked quickly. That’s just how it is.
This comes down to compatibility, so I think you’d be better off moving on to the next woman.
> Why would a woman with little motivation to participate, who doesn’t urgently need the money and isn’t looking for an adult relationship (intimate), go out of her way to register with a club?
I think there’s a good chance you’ve misunderstood the situation. It’s simply a matter of personal preference.
If a woman who wasn’t your type invited you out for dinner only (no intimacy), wouldn’t it also be difficult for you to find a date that worked?
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I don’t know about her motivation for participating, but I do think personality can affect someone’s class. It might move them up or down by one class, but if she was placed two classes lower, then the interviewer’s preferences must have differed quite a bit from yours.
Also, motivation for participating can vary depending on the person they’re meeting. Maybe her motivation was low because she simply didn’t like you that much.
It’s also possible that she needed money urgently when she registered, but now she no longer wants money badly enough to pursue an adult relationship (intimate).
Don’t forget that she has her own life, separate from yours.
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