A complete stranger asked me, “Are you doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?” I wasn’t exactly dressed stylishly. When another man approached me, he saw me using my phone and asked if I was on a dating app. Yet another man invited me to see him, saying he would pay me an allowance. I was also told that I was an attractive woman. I’m not bragging.
All of this happened on the same day.
What I want to know is: Is everyone doing papa-katsu these days?
Has it really become so popular that I could be approached about it this many times in a single day?
I’m Shingo Lee (Shingori), a columnist.
The men who approached you are pretty experienced.
Honestly, when you do street pickups, you can usually tell who’s into papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). Of course, there are probably cases where we pass by a PJ woman without realizing it, but when we approach someone thinking she’s into papa-katsu, she almost always is.
We make an overall judgment based on her clothes, belongings, and general vibe.
I don’t know the ratio of women we notice to those we don’t, but when I’m in a busy downtown area, it feels like there’s about one in every 300 women. They’re simply concentrated in those areas, so I wouldn’t say it’s popular nationwide.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
Not everyone does papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
You were probably approached because they saw you waiting alone to meet someone in a busy downtown area.
If you go with a man who approaches you there and asks whether you want to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you’ll probably just get tricked into having sex for free and be left with nothing.
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It’s Nana Ayase ♡
Seattle, there are still guys hitting on me~
After I got my hair done, I actually got approached twice the other day.
One of them seemed like a perfectly ordinary guy. He approached me on my first date and followed me all the way to the hotel where I was meeting someone, saying he wanted to see me even if it had to be another day.
I didn’t know what to do (sweat).
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I’ll answer as Maezawa from the CEO’s office.
This is just a guess, but maybe pickup tactics have changed lately, and it now starts by asking whether she’s into papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Compared with simply being asked out for tea, women might be more receptive to “Want to do papa-katsu?” because they expect to receive money as well as have tea, so I imagine it may be more likely to work.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
For better or worse, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) has become mainstream.
In the past, it was mainly a matter of some Minato Ward girls (lol) getting spending money from wealthy Minato Ward men under the guise of “taxi fare” at paid drinking parties. But now, even ordinary young women like you can get approached just by walking through an ordinary downtown area…
Also, men are perfectly capable of calling a woman “such a catch,” “cute,” or “beautiful” as many times as it takes when they want to sleep with her or think they can sell her to the sex industry. Please be careful not to fall for it.
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I’m in Seattle.
I guess creepy pickup attempts still happen.
I’m a man, so I’ve never really seen them, but women must witness plenty of them—as well as incidents like groping. They just run away...
It’s pretty common, so I guess people use it when they want to complain.
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