Two years ago, I started seeing a man in his 60s with an allowance of “2.”
At first, to be honest, I felt that “2” for an adult relationship (intimate) was out of the question, but when I considered the man’s personality, looks, and overall appeal, he seemed like someone I could accept a lower allowance from, so I started seeing him. (Deep down, I wanted a little more.)
To make up for the shortfall, I secretly started looking for other papa supporters as well. I was hoping to find two or three, thinking that even if each one paid a small amount, it would add up to a substantial total.
However, something happened that exposed the fact that I was looking for other papa supporters.
I was prepared for us to break up, but after the incident, the man voluntarily increased my allowance to “5.”
We also have incredibly good intimate chemistry, and I’m confident that I have him completely captivated.
If you start with a lower allowance but manage to build a relationship so strong that he can’t bear to let you go, are situations like this likely to happen again in the future?
I’d appreciate answers from both men and women.
I’m Dai, a male member.
If he was trying to lowball your allowance, then the appearance of a rival could certainly prompt him to offer more.
But as you wrote, that would mean going from 2 to 5—not a huge jump.
For reference, in roughly 30 arrangements I’ve had so far, I’ve only been asked to increase the allowance twice, and I said goodbye to both of them right away…
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Three years ago, I met him through an app, so I thought around $300 was the norm. We started at $300, but after reading the questions here, I raised it to $500. We’ve been seeing each other for over two years now.
I suppose it’s possible if you really like the person.
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I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
If you mean going from 2 to 5, I think that’s totally plausible.
If you mean going from 5 to 10, though, it seems fairly uncommon.
Speaking for myself, if it were a woman I really liked, going from 2 to 5 would be entirely possible. In fact, I’d apologize for not having done so sooner and offer to make up the difference from previous meetings.
Going from 5 to 10 could also happen for a one-off meeting or something, provided there was an established relationship of trust. After all, I believe a dating club is about supporting a woman with the amount she needs.
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This is Nana Ayase ♡
I’ve never heard of someone raising the allowance partway through, but…
I was thinking of sticking with just this one person too. But if I really commit to him and then get quickly demoted to “just a friend,” I’ll have no choice but to look for someone else, right?
People’s feelings can change so easily, so I’ll keep my options open while I’m still receiving offers.
If he can meet me four times a month at my current allowance, I’ll stick with just him.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well.
Lately, I’ve noticed that arrangements where the allowance gets increased partway through seem to be becoming somewhat popular.
Could this be a scheme by men trying to somehow get intimate while offering a low allowance?
(As in, “It might go up later, so you should put up with a low allowance at first”?)
However, I’ve never heard of a man voluntarily increasing the allowance—not from men, and not from women either.
Of course, just because I haven’t heard of it doesn’t mean it never happens. But if we’re talking about possibilities, there are also people whose allowance gets reduced partway through.
(I have heard of that happening.)
Usually, the allowance stays the same as it was at the beginning. And when it does change, it’s much more likely to go down.
As for the possibility of it going up…
I feel like it’s about as likely as winning the lottery.
I don’t think women should get their hopes up over unrealistic possibilities.
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I’m Kamihikōki, a male member.
You must really like him if you feel that strongly about not wanting him to see other men. It sounds like you’ll be able to maintain a good relationship going forward.
After seeing each other for about two years, the allowance could either go up or down.
Either is possible if the goal is for both of you to continue the relationship.
The longer you’ve been seeing each other, the easier it is to arrive at a reasonable amount and discuss it openly. I think having that conversation is a good idea if you want the arrangement to continue.
Also, whether the allowance goes up or down, or even if you decide to end things, discussing it as an option for continuing the relationship can ultimately create benefits for both of you and help it last longer.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
> Even if the allowance is low at first, if I can build the relationship to the point where she can’t bear to leave, do you think situations like this could continue to happen in the future?
I think it’s definitely possible.
But I’m not sure you need to try quite so hard.
I think it would be best to value the relationship you have now.
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