My papa keeps asking to have sex without protection. My monthly-arrangement papa wants to do it bareback, but no matter how heated things get, when he asks, I tell him, “Stop. The moment you put it in, I’ll go to the police and report that I was raped, and I’ll never see you again,” and he stopped. That means he doesn’t really care about me, right, since he asks to do it bareback? I’m a minor and a student, so I absolutely don’t want to get pregnant. Besides, I don’t feel any pleasure or excitement from doing it without protection in the first place. (I mean, why would I get turned on by a papa who isn’t even my boyfriend?) I feel like my papa really likes me, but does he ask to do it bareback because, deep down, he sees me as nothing more than a walking favorite masturbatory toy?

I’m Tetsu, a male member. So you think your papa really loves you, huh? Interesting. As long as he can put his “rod” in a “hole,” he doesn’t really care. He just doesn’t want to wrap it up. Any hole will do—if you happened to be standing in front of him, he’d probably think, “Might as well use this one.” That’s likely all there is to it.

I’m BB7, a male member. A walking fleshlight vs. a walking ATM— I’d say it’s a pretty even match.

Maezawa from the CEO’s office here—I’ll answer as well. > He asks to have unprotected sex because he doesn’t really care about me, right? No, I don’t think that’s the reason. Whether he truly cares about you or not, I think he wants to have unprotected sex. However, if he genuinely cares about you, he should be confident that he can take responsibility if anything happens. And if the worst does happen, I believe he would properly take responsibility. There are various ways to take responsibility, but in a country governed by law, an apology is ultimately expressed in monetary terms. So perhaps he would pay around 10 million yen? Ask him about that, and if he says he’ll pay, have him deposit the money in escrow. I’m not sure whether it’s possible to make pregnancy a condition, but if the only condition is whether or not you become pregnant, then perhaps it would be okay? I’m not entirely sure. > First of all, having unprotected sex doesn’t make me feel any more excited or anything. Most women say the same thing, so I don’t think it makes much difference for the woman. (Though there are some rare women who do find it more pleasurable without protection.) If anything, I imagine women agree because they want to please the man. From your wording, though, it sounds like you don’t feel you can go that far for this man. And that’s perfectly fine. It’s normal to only agree when it’s with someone you truly like or when you yourself feel comfortable with it. And this isn’t just about whether it’s unprotected—it applies equally to whether you want to have sex at all. Please think carefully about your own boundaries and make sure you won’t regret how far you choose to go. > I feel like my papa (a male supporter) really loves me, but is he asking for unprotected sex because, ultimately, he sees me as nothing more than a walking sex toy? I’m sure he really does like you. Very few people give an allowance to someone they don’t like. They pay an allowance precisely because they’re fond of the person. That said, you can sometimes tell how much someone likes you by whether the allowance is generous or low-paying… I’m not sure exactly what you mean by “a walking sex toy,” but if he were paying for one, I’d be worried that you might end up being compared to something like a Tenga based on price.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. I use condoms 100% of the time, but honestly, part of me still wants to have sex without one. In other words, my take is that sexual desire can be strong enough to outweigh feelings like wanting to cherish or care for someone. Whether someone uses a condom, I think, is influenced more by their self-control and ability to hold back than by how much they care about the other person. Also, there’s definitely a certain number of men who insist on going without condoms.

I’m in Seattle. Either take the pill and increase the allowance, or look for someone else.

For a questioner who’s worried about pregnancy and a papa who wants to go without protection, I think the pill would be the best option. It’s also important to discuss what you would do in the unlikely event of a pregnancy. If he insists on going without protection but refuses to share basic information like his real name or workplace, you’re better off ending things with him. The point isn’t that you plan to do anything with that information—it’s simply a safeguard in case you were to become pregnant. Since infections can’t be prevented by the pill, I also think it’s best for both of you to limit yourselves to each other and get tested regularly. Marika

I’m Kazu, a male member. Whether I care about someone and whether I want to go without protection are two separate matters.

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. That might be the case. Probably because he doesn’t have someone he can be intimate with without protection, like a girlfriend...