Isn’t it unacceptable to suddenly have unprotected sex?

I’m Tetsu, a male member. Let’s learn to clearly say “No” when something makes us uncomfortable. You’re the only person who can protect you. If someone has done something you didn’t like, the best thing you can do right now is report the facts to the club. Still, I can’t believe there are people like that. I’d like the club to weed them out, but I suppose it’s difficult when the facts can’t be verified. Since male members are apparently rated too, maybe the club could conduct another interview—or an inquiry—if someone’s rating falls below a certain level. Ah, this isn’t a request to the club. Just thinking out loud. 😅

I’m a male member, BB7. Every now and then, people show up in this Q&A box waving their sense of justice around and saying, “That’s just common sense!” But not everyone lives within the questioner’s idea of common sense. “Of course that’s common sense!” is nothing more than your own personal values. Some people consider going bare to be normal and common sense. Telling them they’re wrong or being unreasonable won’t get you anywhere. If you don’t like it, just say you don’t. That’s all there is to it.

You may also be rumored somewhere to be someone who’ll let a guy do it without a word. Marika

I’m Kazu, a male member. As Maezawa-san said, what’s considered common sense varies from person to person. I also think it’s unacceptable to have sex without protection without getting the other person’s consent. However, perhaps that man had often been told by women he met that unprotected sex was okay, so he came to see it as normal. I’ve actually met women who seemed to think having sex without protection was the norm. That’s why it’s important to communicate your own expectations. I think you should give the club some feedback.

Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu here. What’s considered common sense is often a matter of majority opinion. Something that may be seen as unreasonable by women could be considered normal among men. In this case, if you told him, “Please use a condom,” and he still had unprotected sex, then it’s a serious problem. The man is 100% at fault. It’s a case where he should pay around two million yen in compensation. (Though if you actually want to pursue compensation, you’ll need a recording or other evidence.) But if neither of you said anything, it’s difficult to call it terrible afterward. I understand how you feel, and generally speaking, using a condom is common sense. Still, I think you should have stated it clearly. Your sense of what’s normal may not be the same as the other person’s, so always discuss things beforehand. The same goes for the allowance. Assuming, “He’ll give me 50,000 yen even if I don’t say anything… Maybe he’ll give me 100,000 yen? That’s standard, right?” is unrealistic. I also think you should report this to the club. If they know that he may initiate things without a condom, it could help prevent other women from having an unpleasant experience.