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Previous post ↓ I have a papa I met through this club about a year ago who I had a monthly arrangement with. We used to meet three or four times a month, but he canceled on me at the last minute because he wasn’t feeling well in mid-May, and I haven’t been able to see him since. Then, shortly after June began, he contacted me and said, “My mother’s health has been declining, and because my wife and my mother have a very bad relationship, I can’t really leave the house right now. We live in a two-generation household, so please wait a little longer.” I’ve been waiting ever since, but it’s now been almost three weeks since I last heard from him. Is he trying to let things naturally fizzle out, or is his mother’s condition really so serious that he has no time to think about anything else…? We were close and used to travel together almost every month, so I’ve grown attached to him. I keep waiting every day for him to contact me, and it’s been weighing on me. ーーーーーーー I kept waiting, and today marks one full month… Does this mean it’s over and he’s letting things naturally fizzle out? *Sob* I don’t know how serious his mother’s condition is, but could he really have been busy dealing with it this entire time…? (For context, apparently my papa and his wife have a very strained relationship and barely speak at home.) But surely he has had at least a little time to contact me, right? *Sob* Personally, I don’t want things to end by simply fading away… Because of my papa, I was able to become financially comfortable, and he took me on many trips, so I have a lot of wonderful memories and am grateful to him. If it is going to end, I want us to properly bring things to a close. I’m thinking of contacting him myself, but I’m not sure how to approach him in this situation. Since his last LINE message was about such a serious matter, I’m worried that suddenly bringing up ending things might be rude to him. Would it be better to say something like, “Is your mother doing okay?” or “How have you been?” I thought something casual and non-confrontational might be easier for him to receive. Honestly, this situation is painful precisely because I had genuine feelings for him, and I really don’t understand how he feels about me now. From a man’s perspective, what do you make of this situation? Sorry this got so long, but I would really appreciate your answers.

Answer 1

I’ll answer too—Maezawa from the president’s office. I can understand being so busy that you can’t meet for about a month, but not being able to contact you at all seems pretty unusual. With that in mind, there’s probably a good chance he’s hoping the relationship will just fade away naturally. So, as Mac suggested, I think it might be best to send him this as-is: “You’re trying to cut me off, aren’t you? I love you so much—I don’t know what I might do!” The key points, I think, are: “I really love you,” but also, “If you cut me off, I don’t know what I might do.” Something along the lines of love and hatred being two sides of the same coin. If all you do is complain, he’ll probably lose interest. And if you only tell him you love him, he may just think, “What am I supposed to do with that?” But saying that you love him while also hinting that you resent him might make him think, “Maybe I should see her again.”

Answer 2

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. > She canceled at the last minute, saying she was feeling unwell. Unlike women, who might use that excuse about once a month, men almost never do that—at least, not in my experience. It was probably just a lie. > I was able to have more financial freedom because I had a papa. I think he saw how fixated she was on the money and simply got tired of it. He probably realized how money-motivated she was from the sheer number of questions she asked. If she really felt that she had > many good memories and was grateful, then she wouldn’t be thinking about cutting things off, and the man wouldn’t have left either. She brought it on herself.

Answer 3

If it’s bothering you that much, I’d send him a LINE message. Of course, I’d make sure to word it thoughtfully. If he still doesn’t reply, I’d let it go. I know it’s hard, but you’ll definitely meet someone good again. Marika

Answer 4

I’m Nana Ayase, one of the female members ♡ I think it’s probably just fading out naturally. Don’t send a follow-up LINE—if he thinks you can’t read the room, it’ll only annoy him. You like him because he gives you money and takes you on trips, right? If you’re young, there are plenty of men like that out there. Just move on to the next one.

Answer 5

I’m in Seattle. I feel like my papa’s feelings have cooled, and he’s trying to let things fade away naturally. It would be lonely if things just ended this way. He gave me so many wonderful memories. Does he really not want to see me anymore? For the sake of future relationships, could he please tell me what I did wrong? It’s been on my mind every day, and it’s really painful. Should I send him something like that? You seem like a very warmhearted person. I hope you find someone wonderful.

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