What does it mean for a woman to be good at sex? Do you get better as you get older?

I’m Maezawa from the President’s Office, and I’ll answer too. First of all, I feel there’s a slight contradiction in the question itself. Whether you’re good at sex and whether you put on an act are two completely different things. Put another way, the question seems to be asking about two things at once: - Whether you’re good at acting - Whether you’re good at sex As for whether acting is necessary, if you’re genuinely unable to feel anything at all and your expression doesn’t change during intimacy, then I suppose learning how to act may be necessary. Most men would probably be disappointed by a woman who shows no reaction whatsoever. However, people are more likely to see through acting than not, so you’d need to be convincing enough to fool even yourself and make sure you’re never found out. If that’s not the case, then there’s no need to act. If you take the risk of being found out, a man may lose interest once he realizes you were pretending. If you can feel things normally, just being yourself is fine. If you want to get better at sex, I don’t think there’s really such a thing as being good or bad when it comes to the missionary position. If you’re enjoying yourself naturally, I think the man will be satisfied. There may be differences in skill when you’re on top or taking the lead, but I don’t think many men expect exceptional skill there. If that’s what they’re looking for, they’ll probably go to an adult entertainment establishment. When you think about it that way, “getting better at sex” may be something of an illusion. That said, if you want to improve at something specific, such as oral sex, then I think it’s fine to put in some effort. Beyond that, I don’t think it’s something you can achieve through effort alone. If you strengthen the muscles down there and become able to move or tighten them in a wave-like way, you could become the owner of a truly exceptional body, and a man might not want to let you go. But I feel that people who can do that are probably naturally that way without having to do anything.

I’m Shingo Lee, a relationship columnist. Have you had an unpleasant experience because someone commented on your sexual technique? While there are differences in sexual skill, unless you’re doing it professionally, I don’t think you need to worry too much about whether you’re “good” or “bad.” The most important thing is to enjoy yourself first. In that sense, I think the key to good sex is communicating well with your partner. For example, when you’re close to climax and want them to keep going, you might say, “Keep going just like that—I’m almost there!” Or, if continuing would make you climax too soon, you might say, “Don’t keep going—I’m going to climax.” Having that kind of variety in your communication is one key to good sex, and one reason people may consider you skilled in bed. If you’re “acting” during sex when you’re not really in the mood, then you’re entering the world of acting. You may want to study the craft. If you are in the mood, I think it’s better to act out how you would like things to develop. I sometimes use what could be called a “mind orgasm.” At first, the woman may say, “I’m cumming!” as part of the act. Gradually, she becomes genuinely immersed, and eventually she can climax through suggestion alone. There are also actual techniques involving oral sex, the cowgirl position, and so on. You can find information about them online, so please use it as a reference. I hope you have a wonderful sex life.

I’m Kazu, a male member. I believe being good at sex means being able to enjoy yourself while also making your partner enjoy it. But you don’t automatically get better just because you get older. As long as you’re putting on an act, I think you’re actually terrible at it.

I’m a male member named Paper Airplane. I don’t expect women to be particularly skilled. Some women naturally gain experience and become more developed as they get older, but having a fixed routine isn’t necessarily a good thing. Some men don’t like that. If it happens naturally and things progress naturally, that’s fine—but it’s not something that necessarily comes with age…

Are you going to become an AV actress? Sorry, I just thought maybe you were trying to perfect your technique（笑） Whether your partner is male or female, I think it’s a process of trial and error: you watch their expressions and reactions, and if you think, “Oh, they seem to like that,” you try it again. If you’re comfortable enough to ask things like, “How about this?” or “You like this, right?” then I think it’s fine to ask. In that sense, I feel you do need to be somewhat proactive. As for putting on an act—if you mean pretending to be enjoying yourself, that really comes down to the other person’s ability. If someone feels it isn’t over until they’ve made the woman climax, and she’s having a hard time getting there, maybe they’d want to fake it just to bring things to an end. I’ve never done that myself, so I can’t say. Marika