I’ve just started working full-time, but because of the nature of my job, my hours are long, and it’s become harder to meet my papa (male supporter) than when I was a student. I’m seriously wondering whether I should quit my job so I can see him whenever he wants. But I’m scared that if he suddenly ends things, I won’t be able to survive.
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Are women who do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) generally more likely to be students or freelancers, since they have more flexible schedules? I’m really feeling how difficult it is to balance work with seeing my papa.
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here—I’ll answer as well.
You should avoid doing anything that amounts to gambling.
You should only start thinking about that once you have five or ten papas (male supporters) and can support yourself even after quitting your job.
It’s still too soon.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Wealthy company owners tend to be busy—the occasional exception aside, most who are still actively working have packed schedules—so they value women who are flexible and willing to work around them.
I’m not an office worker, but I feel that my flexibility in various ways is something my papas appreciate.
That said, I also make an effort to accommodate them in my own way. Even among people in the same line of work as me, I’m sure there are those who can’t adapt to their partner’s schedule.
In the end, as long as they can see that you’re making an effort and have the right attitude, you don’t necessarily have to quit your job to remain one of your papa’s favorites.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
If you quit your job and start seeing him more often, there’s a greater risk he’ll eventually say goodbye.
I think it’s better to keep being someone who can hold down a regular job.
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I’m BB7, a male member.
> “If she suddenly left me, I wouldn’t be able to go on living.”
I don’t know whether you mean financially or emotionally, but first, you need to recognize that this is an extremely serious situation.
We can talk about what to do next after that.
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I’m in Seattle.
As someone who’s unemployed, I’ll give a different answer.
If you have five papas (male supporters), you should quit your job and make papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) your full-time gig.
If you’re attractive and popular, pursue marriage at the same time. Looks come second—find a wealthy, seemingly faithful cash cow and aim for a lifestyle of daytime spa treatments and lunches with other moms.
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Ayase Nana ♡
Don’t quit your job〜
Instead of working full-time, why not switch to a part-time job or shorter hours?
Even if you quit, will you really be able to see your papa every week? It would be wonderful if he kept making offers indefinitely, but that’s probably not how it’ll go, right? Especially if you have a specialized job.
I assume you went to vocational school or got some kind of license for it. Are you really going to throw all that time away? What a waste.
Or maybe work hard full-time for a year, then consider switching to part-time from your second year onward?
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
There are a fair number of students, but I think freelancers are in the minority. Since I don’t make offers to either group and have no interest in them, I simply don’t remember them—so they might actually be the majority.
Even if students and freelancers are the majority, I think it’s better to hold down a proper job. Your arrangement could end suddenly, and more than anything, a woman who’s reached a certain age and has earned money almost exclusively through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) comes across as pretty sad.
You say you’re new to the workforce, but if you leave your job within the next few years, I think finding another job will become more difficult. At the very least, I’d recommend sticking with your current job for three years.
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Quit your job and start seeing a papa?
Seriously, give the jokes a rest. How many times have I written this in the Q&A box now?
If you lose your job, you won’t be able to support yourself in the first place. Are you really going to entrust your life to such an unstable relationship with a papa?
It’s your life, so why not try quitting your job and living by seeing a papa?
Though I won’t take responsibility for the consequences.
Marika
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I’m date◎yume, a male member.
First, I think you should focus on doing your job properly, build some flexibility into your schedule, and date someone you can meet in your free time.
There aren’t actually that many students or part-time workers among the women registered here. I believe everyone manages their schedules and makes these arrangements work.
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